ninjaturtles Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 That my Ex and his girlfriend broke up. I never inquired or anything. A friend of mine just started blabbing about it to me...unexpectedly. According to her story, it seems like his girlfriend had the upper hand in the relationship and he asked her for reconciliation two days after he suggested a break ( because she went againt his will by going to spend the weekend with her male friends) but she refused. However, the friend that told me this heard from the mouth of a friend of the ex girlfriend ( of my ex), so that may not be the real story. Whatever happened, does not concern me however. However, I tried to calculate things...the sequence of events. It appears that my ex started being very nice after the split with his girlfriend. I know I have been warned not to break NC. Right now, I feel so crappy. It's been so long since we split, about 1 year and 4 months. However, when he resumed contact and starting behaving very nice to me, I honestly thought..'maybe he is not happy in his relationship and wants to be with me'. Now I find out that he probably started contacting me because of the recent split between him and his ex...I feel like crap all over again. I guess the following things have been reinforced. 1) That he never really cared for me. I should not have looked back, judging by the fact that he treated me very cruelly after the split. Now his actions have confirmed that his recent contact had NOTHING to do with him missing me etc. He most like contacted me because he may have been hurting from the split with his ex. For his own selfish reasons. I feel really sad tonight. If anyone is online, I would appreciate it if we could talk. I can't sleep. I hope this feeling would go away very soon. I guess it's back to NC now. REMINDER- Exes and exes for a reason. Do not look back, keep walking. I regret responding to him and being nice etc. It took me back and now I realise that he never did care for me and only contacted me because of the split with his girlfriend. It's my fault and I have to live with the consequences...I don't know what to do from here..... If anyone is online, can we talk?
EmperorR Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 yep exes are exes for a reason, it looks like he is just contacting you because he wants the old comfortable person, thought the grass was greener on the other side but nope. Stay strong, and go back to NC, its disgusting how someone can just kick you out of their life move on with someone else and one that faults, that they literally expect the other person to just be there. I don't know what to say because I have not been in that situation but I can imagine how hard it must feel, you probably healed after all that time, and then he strung you along again.
Author ninjaturtles Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t11544/ I found this somewhere...I guess this is what I am truly dealing with. I am finding hard to accept that he rejected me, and was happy with someone else who rejected him. I did my best...it wasnt enough. This thread is really encouraging. You could all read it.
Author ninjaturtles Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 yep exes are exes for a reason, it looks like he is just contacting you because he wants the old comfortable person, thought the grass was greener on the other side but nope. Stay strong, and go back to NC, its disgusting how someone can just kick you out of their life move on with someone else and one that faults, that they literally expect the other person to just be there. I don't know what to say because I have not been in that situation but I can imagine how hard it must feel, you probably healed after all that time, and then he strung you along again. Yuop...thanks a lot for replying. I was moving on fine till he started contacting me...and gave me false hopes
EmperorR Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Yuop...thanks a lot for replying. I was moving on fine till he started contacting me...and gave me false hopes that's what they do, these selfish greedy only thinking about themselves pieces of scum. Guy probably got dumped, all alone feeling like crap and then remembers oh wait I had a girl who was always there for me and treated me good, let's see if I still have her.
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