Knight_Ctrl Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 I've been reading a lot about how NC can help you heal through time and not care about whats going on...but isn't this also sort of like letting love die? The girl that just broke up with me means the whole world to me, and although I've been crying less and less about it I'm terrified that one day I just won't care anymore. What happens too if one day she realizes the huge mistake that she's made and wants to get back together? Is this just holding on to false hope? Is the suffering of loving her until the day I die worth the chance that we MAY get back together again after she gets her **** together?........NC can help us heal, it has for me in the past. But at what cost to the chances that we may be again someday....
Cub Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 If you hold to the belief that she will come around one day, you will be miserable for years. There's no point, my friend; as far as you're concerned, she'll never love you again. Yeah, it hurts, but compounded false hope hurts more. And it's not as though you'll never love again, or even that you're emotionally numb - you're only numbing yourself toward her. You'll find someone else, someone who will make you feel the same way she did, but only after you allow yourself to move on.
Geishawhelk Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 2nd opportunities work at times, but it's not all that common. You have to stop doing this to yourself and stop looking back and wishing. If you keep going, and looking ahead, you're far more likely to be able to approach new beginnings with a healthier, happier, calmer and more 'together' attitude than the one you have now. Even in a diluted or milder dose....... You're in a bad way. Concentrate on healing and getting over stuff now. When you feel better, you'll probably even feel differently.
EmperorR Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 nothing you can do can bring them back to you. Being friends wiht them will put you in friend zone, being annoying, always begging pleading will push you farther away. NC is for yourself not for them who cares what they think they dumped you, your the one who needs healing work on yourself. Yes I still love my cheating ex and think about her all the time, and want to talk to her, but why would I she has a a new bf, she's moved on, why would I want to be friends and always hurt and itching for bread crumbs, when I can do NC get my dignity back, and find soemone who won't cheat and kick me the curb.
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