Oscar51 Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 My ex and I were together for a year when she broke things off. She wouldn't tell me why she was breaking up with me, buy I know it was b/c I was too nice and a pushover at times. Anyways she recently had a death in the family. It's been 3 months since I've seen or talked to her. My question is, would it be wrong for me to show up at the visitation? I think it would be because we ended on really bad terms and I've only heard from her twice since the break up. There's no telling what kind of emotions she's going through right now and I don't want my presence to stir up anything else. I don't want to cause any more stress to an already hard situation. I sent a card to her family and left her a voicemail giving her my sympathy. That's about all I can do in this situation I think. Any thoughts? Thanks.
Geishawhelk Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 You know what? I think you've done all you can, and done well. I'd be inclined to leave it, other thn maybe finding out if you can send flowers, or make a donation to a chosen charity (as is sometimes the wish.)
Author Oscar51 Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 Yea I think so too. I had only met the relative once and it was about for 30 seconds. My ex was my connection to that person and she decided to give me the axe. I asked her if she'd be ok with me coming to the visitation and she simply said you can come if you want. However my brain was telling me, she has made no effort to contact you. What makes you think you're welcome there? What good would it do to go? You left a voice-mail and sent her family a card. I feel this way I'm being there for someone I care about while not being to invasive as well. She broke up with me and I'm still respecting that decision. As much as I want to still be a part of her family and life, I'M NOT anymore. This is for the best I think.
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