atc2410 Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Do you think players suspect we find them utterly transparent but just cbf calling them on it? Surely they can't believe the games they play are discreet enough as to go unnoticed. I'm male, been seeing a girl for four weeks. Given how early everything is I'm not as invested as those in longer term relationships. If she was honest and upfront about things then I'd respect that and make a call as to whether it's something I can accommodate personally. To hear one thing from her (relationship, strong feelings, exclusive, please don't hurt me blah blah) then to see her in my peripheral vision do the total opposite and be sneeky about it is another thing entirely. I wish her well.
Woggle Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 If you know somebody is a player they are not a good one.
Humbleman Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 I've been called a player, but I am not a player. I'm a straight talker, when a girl asks me what I want, I will always say I want to have a good time and I don't see myself in a long term relationship. If a woman ignores this has fun with me and then is crushed because I don't develop feelings for her then that's her problem and in no way makes me a player.
Cat66 Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 RE reading your post I will offer what I can We dont know initially, but we find out soon enough. And no, not all women will show you the red flags you look for. We all arent that niave. There are actually women out there who play your game, and maybe even play it better than you. Dont believe me? lets talk worth on paper, are you really all that? maybe so depending on who you are seeing. I have been there done that. I dont like games. If he fools me then he just got one on me. Usually the sexy intriguing ones I have met are flat broke. The ones who arent are married and trying hard to play the single game. I genuinly would like to know where you are going with this?
Humbleman Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 When a woman enters a man's game, there is only outcome for that woman; total and absolute failure. The samething is true of a man. I have met so called female players and I even slept with two of them and the more I had sex with these women the more emotional they became. Women cannot seperate sex from emotions as well as a man can, I don't dispute that their are women who can, but they are a very rare find.
Cat66 Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 "the more I had sex with these women the more emotional they became. Women cannot seperate sex from emotions as well as a man can," Sadly, I must agree with you.
berrieh Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Anyone who says one thing and does another annoys me. At least you know now. Let players play their games somewhere else... you've just better learned how to identify one. When a woman enters a man's game, there is only outcome for that woman; total and absolute failure. The samething is true of a man. I have met so called female players and I even slept with two of them and the more I had sex with these women the more emotional they became. Women cannot seperate sex from emotions as well as a man can, I don't dispute that their are women who can, but they are a very rare find. Perhaps this is true on average, but generalizations never work. I've known men where sex prompted them to develop feelings (or they say it did). I know other women where sex doesn't impact their emotions (I don't believe it impacts mine, though I don't "play"---I have serial monogamy tendencies, but in college had some relationships where I didn't really develop feelings, before I began to believe in love)...actually, what mostly happens is that the women have the emotions already when they are supposedly "playing" -- it's more about them covering it up and having it uncovered, not about them "developing" it. I hate this 'man's game' stuff.
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