Mr Biscuits Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 I know my ex's email password. Anyone ever been tempted to look? BTW, I haven't looked and I never will. But I'm willing to admit that I sometimes get curious. Wondered if this was normal. It's been 6 months...
Author Mr Biscuits Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 Forget it, I've searched the forum and found that this question has been asked a number of times. So I have my answer...
e.clipse Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 i think you should look. maybe you will find what you are really looking for. it's a good kind of hurt.
Geishawhelk Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 No, it's not. it's also intrusive and could be illegal. I suggest you drop her a note saying:- "Change your passwords. I know them. I could read your mail, but I don't want to. I'm tempted to though, which is why, respecting your privacy, I think you should change your PW." Then resume NC.
e.clipse Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 yes, it is. if he read them, then he would perhaps find out all the good, evil stuff she was up to while in the terminating moments of the relationship. i'm sure he'll be happy to read those things. it's a bright light, really.
Geishawhelk Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 I repeat. It's illegal. If he gets caught, she could sue him for infringement and invasion of privacy. He really doesn't want to go down that route. And you say it's 'a good kind of hurt'..? How can seeing possible love letters and intimate communications with another person, or hurtful things about yourself, be a "good kind of hurt" - !?
fishtaco Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 I'm with Geisha on this one. The classy thing to do would be to drop her a note like Geisha said, but optional, since it does kind of break NC. Depending how psycho she is, she might view this as an attempt to get back with her, or an attempt to stalk her. Anyway the healthy place to be would be disinterest.
californiadreaming Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I have my ex's password to her email that she checks daily, Something is telling me she has another one though. I gave up on trying to sniff it out after spending hours trying to find dirt on her online. At the same time I check her e-mail everyday, lol it is only because I feel like its the closest contact I have to her. It makes me feel relieve to check it. I know I would not find anything anyways but for me it's like taking a shower. & her myspace is a wrap. I wish she checked it, but she hasn't checked it since July. I say do what you gotta do.
Dmoney28 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 nothing good can come from it. Plus its a moral issue as well.
RecordProducer Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I know my ex's email password. Anyone ever been tempted to look? BTW, I haven't looked and I never will. But I'm willing to admit that I sometimes get curious. Wondered if this was normal. It's been 6 months...You've never looked? Wow! I didn't know people like you existed! Are you still in love with her? How can seeing possible love letters and intimate communications with another person, or hurtful things about yourself, be a "good kind of hurt" - !? Yeah, how can the TRUTH be a good kind of hurt? I only like the truth if it's good. If it's bad, I avoid it at any cost.
openbook08 Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 dont do it mr. biscuits i know the email the facebook the works... its a battle not to but i just DONT im feeling really really sad recently like ive slipped so far back into the black hole i dont even feel theres a light anymore.....i feel like checking those things but im certain if i did that would bury me (metaphorically) just before i cut myself off online from him i saw his relationship status go to "in a relationship" & when i checked his email ... loads of notices that she'd left him this and that messages on facebook. i swear he took the last broken piece of my heart that day. and that was the last time. JUST DONT DO IT good luck sweetheart ps: personally i wouldn't be on for letting her know you have her password & might be tempted to check. no no no. NC is NC.
BCCA Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I'll tell you what, think back to any of the sleazy, suggestive emails you two exchanged. You know, the ones about what she was going to wear later on that night, and how you guys were going to have some real 'fun ' You want to see those exchanges with another guy, or even worse, guys? Furthermore, there is absolutely nothing GOOD that will come of it. Even if you did discover that she was cheating on you, or that she has a new boyfriend, is that going to make you feel any better? No, its not. You dont need the 'truth'...you two are over, thats all that matters. I can promise you nothing you would ever find in her emails is going to make you feel anything but terrible. I would just forget about even looking all together, and dont even mention to her you have the PW's. I would be super creeped out if my ex said she had my email PW and was tempted to check it. Its a total invasion of privacy, and honestly, a down right horrible thing to do. Its almost like bugging her phone to listen to her phone calls. Does that scream 'stalker' to you? It does to me...
allan131 Posted December 5, 2008 Posted December 5, 2008 I understand your curiosity. Been down that road, and if I was to go back and do it again, I wouldn't look. I on the other did one time. And part of it was good, I found an unsent email to me, and it was sweet. I also found out she might be pregnant with her new boyfriend. Hurt like a bitch. I was in the same boat as you, I was curious. We were headed down different paths, and i missed her, and we didn't talk like we use to. The curiosity to know what was going on her life, is why I did it. Not to find if she cheated on me, or anything, I missed having the closeness. And instead of going in different paths of life, looking made me slam back into the relationship again, and brought up old feelings. Don't do it. If you're the honest type, and she wouldn't be creeped you still remembered her password, just say change your password before i do something stupid.
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