mbv Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 I am seventeen and I've never had a girlfriend. But a few weeks ago I met a great girl and fell in love with her. Unfortunately, I wasn't sure if she felt the same way. She told me she liked me, but her response when I asked her about dating was "let's hang out and see where it goes." I really liked this girl, and I still do, so I took her advice. Another twist: she said she was interested in another guy as well. Someone she knew before she met me. Yet she said she would never date him because he lived too far away and it was impractical. When I feel rational, the whole thing seems like a bad idea from the start. But I got hooked on her. We hung out for a couple more weeks. All I could think of was how wonderful it would be if I could just hold her in my arms. There were times where I felt like I could and she wouldn't mind, but I wasn't sure if I could the next day. This uncertainty tormented me the whole time. Last night we kissed for the first time. And then I looked into her eyes and realized that, if we were to continue like this, I couldn't really express my feelings toward her. I decided to give up on the relationship. Since then, I've been feeling intensely sad. My question is, should I try to stay friends with her or should I avoid contact for a while? She seems unaffected by my decision to end the romantic part of our relationship, so I think deep down she really wanted friendship. Whenever I see her, I look at her and feel depressed that I will never be with her. Yet breaking contact with her would end the deep, mutual friendship I've made with her the last few weeks. We were never boyfriend and girlfriend, but it feels like we were. She wants to be friends, and so do I, but I'm not sure if I can handle it. What should I do?
EmperorR Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 It's better to be friends when no emotional feelings are involved, once their is you will feel like crap when she has a new guy.
IcemanJB Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Right now you need to keep your distance since you still have feelings for her. Once you honestly don't care if she's seeing another guy, then you know you can be friends with her.
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