Cherry Blossom 35 Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 It's a lame type of shirt. A polyester/silk-blend, short-sleeve, button-up dress shirt. Like something from Tommy Bahama, but without the tropical print. : Sounds like something my dad would wear, LOL.
berrieh Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Your post does a better job of asking the question that I think I really intended: If a guy cares too much/reacts so negatively, is that a *sign* that he's not worth the energy? Well... why do YOU care so much what he wears. It seems to me like it's hypocritical to say if he gets upset that he's a freak, but you seem to be upset that he wears these things... so it's a little "Pot, meet Kettle," to me. If you're serious, you could tease a bit about the shirts. If you're still just casually dating, just compliment when he wears things you like and don't when he wears things you don't. If it's just a couple shirts, what's the big deal?
Meet 4 Coffee Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t124743/?highlight=Mole Someone's got time on their hands.
Meet 4 Coffee Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I would let it be. If it really bugs you this particular item of clothing he wears, then do not go out with him anymore. Also...you telling him he would look better if he only changed X brand/style of clothing to Y brand/style of clothing is the same as him saying to you "You would look so much better if you just lost 10 pounds." How would that go over with you? Assume you hadn't gained any weight since you started dating.
missdependant Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 If you don't like what he wears, by him new clothes. Otherwise, stop being shallow. They're clothes. They are serving their purpose. Men don't want to be changed so don't try and change them. You should date him because you like him.. not because you want to mold him into something else. If you can't deal with it, and it's THAT big an issue than leave him. Your other option is to just drop it and make compromises like half the people in the world do when they're in loving relationships.
CommitmentPhobe Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 A guy who reacts negatively to a suggestion re: clothing is not worth the time. I don't get what the big deal is. Couples (or those dating) go on shopping dates. Women suggest things and men listen and decide if they want to get it or not. Why is there so much analysis about this? They're just clothes. If he is hung up on his particular "style", he has some other issues that need attention. I'd rather slit my throat than be in a relationship like that. Tweak your own style, it's probably not that great.
ThisGuy85 Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I had this old hat that I used to wear everywhere, I loved it, It took me years to break it in so it would fit just right. Anyway my girlfriend HATED it with a passion, she wouldn't even call it a hat, Instead she referred to it as "That thing on my head" One day I came home from and work and low and behold my beloved hat had been replaced with some new hat. I was pissed, My GF sat me down an explained to me that "It had to be done" and that It wasn't my fault "Guys just don't know how to dress themselves". I ended up getting over it, Mainly because she gave me something that the hat didn't So to answer the question: Yes, As long as you're not trying to change who he is, Most guys don't mind their girlfriends/wives "Tweaking" their appearance. We do get over it eventually. I still miss my hat though....
movingonandon Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I had this old hat that I used to wear everywhere, I loved it, It took me years to break it in so it would fit just right. Anyway my girlfriend HATED it with a passion, she wouldn't even call it a hat, Instead she referred to it as "That thing on my head" One day I came home from and work and low and behold my beloved hat had been replaced with some new hat. I was pissed, My GF sat me down an explained to me that "It had to be done" and that It wasn't my fault "Guys just don't know how to dress themselves". I ended up getting over it, Mainly because she gave me something that the hat didn't So to answer the question: Yes, As long as you're not trying to change who he is, Most guys don't mind their girlfriends/wives "Tweaking" their appearance. We do get over it eventually. I still miss my hat though.... Dude, I'd be pissed if my girl killed my hat!!! I don't understand what the big deal about criticising a guy's style is... (as long as it's not a part of some broader psuchological britalization). If dude is so fragile that he gets offended byt style suggestion, then there might be other issues in there. Point being that if my gf says she does not like something i'm wearing, my reaction will be either "Eat it, I look awe-inspiring!" or, "Hm, maybe you have a point...". No big deal either way. [Now it probably doesn't work the same way the other way around (I'm pretty sure one of the many reasons she dumped me is that i in no uncertain terms pronounced that getting out of the house in flip flops is a baaad form )]
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