denverdevon Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 I've been seeing a woman for the last 2.5 months. We've talked on the phone almost every day and txted throughout the day as well. We've been seeing each other a few times a week and have been having great sex. She says that I treat her better than anyone else ever has and she is not used to it (she had an abusive childhood and then marriage). I met her daughter a few weeks ago and all three of us have been having a lot of fun. She was extremely excited that her daughter had been asking about me.... The father had the daughter for the last week, so we have spent every night together at my home. We also took a road trip for Thanksgiving staying out of town in a fancy hotel and having a great dinner. Everything went extremely well except on the drive home we had a little disagreement because she thought I "liked" her too much. This reminded her of a relationship where she really liked a guy and had sex with him but he would always tell her "We are nothing". She tried to compare me to her in that situation and I disagreed saying that they were nothing alike. She was upset I did not agree. This was our first fight ever. Anyway, she has always been upfront with me saying she is scared of relationships and she will not call herself my "girlfriend". Rather, we were just "seeing each other exclusively". She texted me this morning saying she had great times with me but she will need to get her stuff eventually and she hoped we could be friends. I called her and told her I respect her decision and that I will miss her and I will always care for her. She was upset on the phone. Later on she sent a txt, saying that a relationship will change her life too much, that it is nothing I did, and that she will be saving us both future heartache. I really care for this woman but I don't think I can do "just friends". Honestly, my ideal would be to take the relationship a notch down where we see each other maybe once a week and her life would not change. How can I do this? Or do I just need to let this one go? She does have a lot of drama in her life: ex-husband is still mean and vindicative, she has a horrible living situation and bad credit, not a good job, etc. My life on the other hand is great: own my own home, no drama, no ex, stable high income job, no kids etc.
davidjor Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 leave her alone, cut all contact. She has way to much baggage !!
Vince Black Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Sometimes, my man, the writing is on the wall. And sometimes the best advice comes from those who know themselves the best. Walk away. I'm thinking you got off easy.
Kels90 Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 From a girl's point of view, I think that you should slow it down. You like spending time with her, you care about her, and she cares about you. I just got out of a relationship with someone I'm still madly in love with. And what I got from that is that guys/girls who care a lot about someone and who will stay committed are hard to find. I think that if you really care about her and will stay committed to her, you should go with your guts and take it slow with her. Seeing her once or even twice a week will keep things slow between you guys and will steadily develop the relationship.
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