wildflowerchild98 Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Ok I am not sure if this thread belongs here but...here goes I have been in SoCal for alittle over 3 years now and I still am struggling with making friends I come from a small town (and when I say small I mean small...) We are talking 3,000 people small and I moved out here and there is like 90,000 plus people It is like living in a whole new country for me MAJOR culture shock!!! People out here sorry to say based on my personal experience thus far are not as friendly or easy-going It is a fast paced world I feel I have been left in the dust it gets depressing sometimes and I just don't know how to deal with it sometimes it was such a big step and I feel like a fish out of water:confused: and wonder will I ever belong! My question is has anyone else been through something similiar and how do you deal with it thanks in advance!!!
Green Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 When I lived in NYC i constantly had people tell me I talk to slow haha so I guess I can relate. And I myself am origionaly from a very small town... but usualy something magic happens after the first year and I just start making friends... Why don't you put this same plee on craigslist for your area and try to make some girl friends... you only need one and she can bring you into a group
Author wildflowerchild98 Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 Thanks I heard about craigslist how could I find friends on there? So you used to live in NYC where were you from? Where do you live now? sorry just curious:) Thanks so much for the warm advice!~Chrissy
Green Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Yeah craigslist.org is a website that alot of people use to find a room mate or sell something. You could try using it with this same post to find a girl friend... just make sure you meet for the first time at a coffee shop or something public. I'd rather not say where I'm from could give me away lol. but if I was in SOCAL I'd definetly like to meet a small town girl... so u'll be a real find for who ever gets to know u
IcemanJB Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I grew up in a town of about 4,000 and am now going to college in a city of 220,000. Even that isn't that big of a city, but there's still some culture shock for sure. It took me about 8 months or so to start making good solid friendships with new people. Of course I still have a handful of close friends from my hometown that go to school here, but most have moved away. I think it just takes time! Friendships just sort of "happen", you can't go out looking for them.
You'reasian Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 She's just a small town girl! Livin' in a LONE-LY WER-ELD!
Author wildflowerchild98 Posted December 1, 2008 Author Posted December 1, 2008 She's just a small town girl! Livin' in a LONE-LY WER-ELD! yep that is me kinda confused!!
You'reasian Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 yep that is me kinda confused!! I'm glad you caught the reference to Journey
4givrnt4gtr Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Well friend, I live in SoCal...and let me tell you, the loneliness has nothing to do with being new in town. It has to do with the fact that there is little opportunity for meeting people since EVERYONE has a car. Seriously, in other cities like NY and Chicago, people actually talk and see each other when going from place to place. In LA? all u see is a bunch of cars parked in the 405. On top of the whole car situation, as you say, life here is fast paced...you get up go to the gym, if thats your style, go to work, get stuck in traffic on your way back, get home at around 6/7/8ish, go to bed. repeat. I tell you this...if you want to make friends, you have to make an extra effort you probably havent had to make before. As in, joing classes, volunteer AND MAKE A POINT OF MAKING FRIENDS. Believe me, people will be so very glad because we are all very lonely out here....In fact, just to start you off, i dare you to do an informal survey. Go to starbucks and start asking random people about this. chances are people will be glad u ask, and hey! u migh actually make a friend!
MN randomguy Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Get an interest, then join a group of people with similar interests. Do you run? join a running club Hike, climb, dance http://www.meetup.com is a good resource Religious? get involved in a local church
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