Over67 Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 My wife and I have been married for over 20 years. We were married in our 20s when she became pregnant. I was never in love yet decided it was the right thing to do to give the child a set of parents. Our child is now out of high school and I have recently asked my wife for a divorce. We get along fine. She's good to me and I'm good to her. We've never had a real argument in all these years. But I don't love her. We don't have similar interests and we can't really sit down and talk about things. We typically sit in silence - silence for 20 years. At this stage in my life I want to be with someone I love. She says she loves me but unfortunately I don't love her. She's never done anything wrong to me which makes me feel selfish for wanting this divorce. Yet another part of me does not want to leave this planet without feeling love. I told her she could have everything and I would leave. This came up 3 months ago and I could be legally divorced in 3 more months. I will miss seeing my son as I will have to move out of the state but I'm sure one day things will be better. I was never miserable in this relationship but I want something more. I'm 90% sure I'm doing the right thing... I think I'll start filling out the forms tomorrow.
lkjh Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Be careful you are leaving a woman who lives you and has been good to you for 20 years. Most of us would kill for this. Sometimes in life you need to be happy with what you have. You may end up worst than before.
Ronni_W Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 ... I think I'll start filling out the forms tomorrow. Good luck. Personally, I think it is important to follow one's own heart and destiny at some point in one's life. Sending Strength, Courage and all else that you'll need...and, of course, Wishes that you will find your True Meaning and Purpose.
mark982 Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 over67, if you're not happy, go for it. we all deserve to be happy, and in love. lifes to short. good luck
n9688m Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Did she know all these years you did not love her? Did you mislead her and tell her all these years that you love her? Have you considered marriage counseling? Do the words "til death do us part" perhaps obligate you at least to try marriage counseling before leaving her. And - sorry if it seems presumptuous - but by chance do you have your eye on another woman yet?
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