unconditional love Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 So where to start, my girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me about a month ago. We had started out dating over the phone after meeting our freshmen year of college through some friends. We both lived across the country from each other though and only got to see each other ever month or so, after we did that for about 6 months she made the move to me. So we've been in a relationship where we see each other everyday, do lots together and support each other with everything. We are the best of friends and share EVERYTHING! And I have wanted to get married, but she insisted on finishing school first and I accepted that, we were pretty much married anyways, minus the title. So about a month ago she tells me her feelings for me have faded and she isn't "aroused" by me anymore. Knocks me on my butt, outta nowhere. She said she wanted to break up, so naturally I acted crazy, and cried, and cried, and yes, cried some more. I just didn't understand where it had all gone wrong. I took care of everything for her. I've got a great job, payed her bills, got her everything she wanted, and loved her more then anything in the world. I showed it too, I was a wonderful boy friend. Even her girl friends don't understand what she is doing. I found out though, there was another guy that she was attracted to. She hasn't acted on it, and even says now that she wont because it would never work out. So yeah that sucks and I don't understand why she is attracted to him at all. Another thing is though, she calls me and wants to hangout daily. We talk still more then most couples do, and even spend quite a bit of time together. So this makes me think she still wants to be in a relationship with me, but whenever I try and hug her or push her to spend the night she always wont let me or says no and gets mad. I just don't understand what changed so drastically with her or what she wants from me. I want to be her friend, because of course I am truly & unconditionally in love with her. I feel like though it is taking a toll on me mentally and physically. She knows how I feel too. She knows how deep my love is for her. I just don't know what to do though... HELP!!!!
BackonTrack2 Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 So this makes me think she still wants to be in a relationship with me, but whenever I try and hug her or push her to spend the night she always wont let me or says no and gets mad. I don't know anything about anything, but those lines = very very bad. GO NC, threw her out your place. Stop paying her bills. Also post in the SECOND CHANCES forum, you'll get more feedback You should also PM segwdick and CallGuy
davidjor Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Unconditional, read my post about the monkey disease....your are unfortunately another statistic. Within a couple weeks, she will be seeing someone else. Guaranteed... Sorry, but its true. Best thing you can do right now, is cut off all contact with her. I know it will be hard. But, that is the only chance you have to getting her back good luck..
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