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I took a nap today, it was only an hour long, but in this nap I had a ridiculously vivid dream of my ex and I getting back together in my room, it was very romantic...and waking up in the room my dream took place in didn't help I can recall everything down to the song playing in the background. Problem is when I woke up for a brief moment it felt like it were real....I'm still very early into getting over her *see my True love crushing my soul thread here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t171542/ *

 

Has this ever happened to any of you guys? How do you deal with it? :sick:

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I find that day time naps are the most vivid and the ones you remember the most.

 

It is definately your subconscious at work playing out your deepest desires, just as it would your fears, anger or any other emotion.

 

I have heard it is helpful to keep a journal of your dreams to look back on at a later date.

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You just brace it, and brace the misery you feel several hours after the dream. It's a pain, but they eventually stop, allowing you to reclaim your shelter in dreamland.

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Those dreams... Please don't get too superstitious about them, hm? They're signs, all right. But they're the more obvious signs - as in, you're missing her, so that's why you dreamt of her.

 

That's fine. You're processing it. I still dream of Lawrence from time to time and only recently did I start brushing those dreams off - I figured that people who you once considered important in your life? They leave an indelible imprint on you and nothing can really take that mark off.

 

What you have control over is how you deal with it and not just dreams, too - reminders, places, old habits shared w/ her, etc. My most recent dream of this chump consisted of him reaching over to touch me on the shoulder and I shrugged it off and walked away. Kinda liked that one compared to my other more romantic dreams of him, truth be told. :cool:

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You're the one that's crushing your own soul. Not her.

 

I do what Cub said. Embrace the pain. It's a hardcore way to go about it, but naturally after awhile (days, weeks, months in my earlier days, but I've gotten much better), your brain will just naturally go... WTF are you doing? And then like a light switch, it gets turned off, and then no more self inflicted soul crushing.

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