baby-boo Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I'm pregnant to my boyfriend... I'm a student i live 100 miles away from him, We're both in further education and have decided were not ready for children. (please don't send me hate mail if you are pro life and against my descision, and please don't say that i 'have no idea what a LDR is because 100 miles is nothing compared to some people' I know its a very small distance compared with most people here, and i respect you all loads for being able to do it, but 100 miles is a long way to me.) Well my emotions are al over the place. Mostly because my hormones are screwed up from the pregnancy, and also becuase i feel quite bad about having an abortion, even though i know its the best choice for me. I'm not enjoying my life away from home here very much, and i have yet to make any close friends like my friends i have back home. My boyfriend is amazing he comes and visits me as often as he can, which is usually twice a month. he's supporting me through the whole thing and is always there for me. Im just really not coping well.. i have so many issues with whole pregnancy thing, and i just wish he was here for me when i get really down and feel i cant cope.. i cry every day, more than once, and im always sad. I can't understand why im feeing like this. is it because i feel bad about having an abortion? is it because i'm home sick? is it becuase i just miss him? will this stop after the abortion? I need him so much and the thought of 3 years LDR kills me
norajane Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Your hormones are surging and that is making you nuts. Talk to your mother, your sister, someone close to you who cares about you (not bf, as you've already been talking with him and he has a vested interest in the outcome and is almost as freaked out as you are, minus the hormones and pregnancy). Do what you need to do and get on with your life. You will feel sad, but not as bad as having a child you can't take care of.
Author baby-boo Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 I could never go to my parents about it, they would be devastated and dissapointet. They would stop me from seeing my boyfriend and would never trust me. I know im 18, but its hard to describe, my parents are so strict, i think they'll always be like this with me even when im a middle aged woman. I have no siblings, so it's just my bf and my friends. In response to the other post i'm 2 months along. (8 weeks)
EMBeee Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Hello, I feel for you! I am also the only child with NO ONE here where I live except for my mom and dad and my two kids. I am 27 and let me tell you, my parents still treat me like a teen. I've been wanting to move to where my LD bf is but of course I have my children here with me and then there's the ex that comes into play. I can't just take my kids away from their father (even though he and I already discussed the move and he's ok with it as long as we have shared custody)... it's a big step for me to make. So, here's where my situation is similar to yours... I am also pregnant... by my LD bf whom I love with all my heart! He and I had talked about having children together but of course when the time was right, well, the time must've been right for fate because I have been on the pill for 6 years and I never got pregnant until now! So I see it as a miracle child who was destined to be born because I think things happen for a reason because it is the plan of a higher force (yeah I know I sound a little psycho right now lol)... I haven't told my bf yet and I'm really scared to. I don't know how he'll take it. I don't know what I will do... I don't know which direction to take... I have high anxiety on how to tell my mother and father (even though a short while ago my mom said she wouldn't mind me having a child with my bf because she really likes him)... From my date calculation from when I went to see my bf last, I think I might have conceived on November 18 or 19 which would make my embryo about 2 weeks old which is probably why I have such a very very faint positive. Let me remind you though that I was on the pill when this happened so I never expected this to occur. I was supposed to get my period on the 28th or 29th (around there) and never got it except for really light spotting pinkish in color and thought that I just felt "odd" - no nausea though or sore breasts, which still strikes me as odd... so one day just out of the blue I thought "Hmmm, just for fun I should take a pregnancy test, I know I'm probably not pregnant but I'll take one anyway just in case".... low and behold, the darn thing turned positive!!!!!!!! So, I don't know what your situation was for protection, make sure you think long and hard before getting an abortion. It won't be easy, it'll throw your emotions into even more whack because then your hormones will be haywired... I know alot of single mothers who make it just fine... but really only you have the key to your own destiny so ultimately it's your decision. Good Luck! Please keep us updated as well
Author baby-boo Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 the doctors have told me my hormones will be even more crazy after the abortion, as they'll drop when they relise the baby is gone, and be too low until they level out, but my boyfriend is coming to visit after the op to look after me so that should help alot... he told me if i kept the baby he'd still support me, but he'd have to drop out of his course, and i could never be responsible for that, he's amazing at what he does and he can be great, i'm not going to take that away from him... i guess i just have to deal with this, things are hard but i guess at times they always are, at least my boyfriend is there for meits more than alot of people have i suppose.
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