xpaperxcutx Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 This is all true but because of private reasons, I have to resort to aliases. The scenario: S and her boyfriend dated early on in the year before having a huge breakup, with S walking out on her bf. They haven't spoken in 10 months, especially with the cold shoulder coming from S. She spoke of how much hatred she has for the boy and even resorted to deleting any and everything having to do with the boy. She ignored him completely, until only recently, she started to resume contact with him. They had a long steady stream of emails going back and forth. Here was the thing: His email easily lets her know whether he was online or not. They had only managed to exchanged two emails before he signed off. S was about to sign off herself, when all of a sudden she received his email. So the only logical explanation was that he had put his online status to invisible. Why would he do that? Furthermore their conversation involved talking about their previous relationship, with the guy bringing up certain events pertaining to sexual situations. S would assume that's a big no-no since she was well aware that he's in a relationship. What do you make of this?
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 People put themselves invisible when they don't want to be interrupted or don't feel like having multiple conversations. How that fits into your story, I don't know for certain. As for discussing past sexual scenarios, if there were issues surrounding them, he might just want to clear the air for some questions he had. If there weren't any issues, I would push him back since he's already in a relationship.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 People put themselves invisible when they don't want to be interrupted or don't feel like having multiple conversations. How that fits into your story, I don't know for certain. As for discussing past sexual scenarios, if there were issues surrounding them, he might just want to clear the air for some questions he had. If there weren't any issues, I would push him back since he's already in a relationship. But according to S it's not likely because based on his character he has never ever went invisible. In regards to the sexual scenarios, the ex boyfriend kept mentioning what good times they had, especially since it was known the ex had a hard time forgetting S.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 I would also like to add he hadn't brought the topic of girlfriend until S asked. And even then it took him a while to reply to S's comment about the gf being pretty. Was he being relunctant in mentioning anything about the gf or was the comment too awkward of a situation?
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Big, red flags xpapercutz. Your g/f is playing with fire.
Green Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 reading this post was like an word problem... Stop worrying about all this seriously this person is obviously secretive on a level that could be deceptive
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 Big, red flags xpapercutz. Your g/f is playing with fire. I know but she's one of my closest friends, and I wish i can help. reading this post was like an word problem... Stop worrying about all this seriously this person is obviously secretive on a level that could be deceptive KMT the only reason I'm being secretive is I don't want my friend finding out that I have her problem posted on here.
Green Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 you could help by setting an example and worying about your own life!
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 you could help by setting an example and worying about your own life! what the hell KMT you're being extremely rude.
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I know but she's one of my closest friends, and I wish i can help.All you can do is to give her your opinion. If she chooses to proceed, you'll be there as her friend to pick up the pieces. You could ask her how she would feel, if the shoe was on the other foot, where an ex of an existing b/f were to enroach on her turf.
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