jpl Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 okay well me and my ex dated our entire senior year. i had never loved someone like i did her. we were good together all year and then suddenly it was time to go to college. thats when she changed on me. she broke up with me randomly. during the summer she would still come over every now and then and although she broke my heart we were on good terms when we left for school. now were halfway through our freshman year in college and she completely shut me out of her life. i have made attempts to talk but she never seems to want to talk. but its wierd every couple weeks i get a text or a IM saying that she misses me and then i dont hear from her for weeks. now shes telling me she misses me again and wants to see me. so we were both home from break and she texts me telling me to go to her party she wants to see me. I go and she doesnt talk to me what so ever all we said was hi and bye. like i just dont understand this isnt the first time that she tells me all this and when it comes time to acutally talk or hang out she completely ignores me.. i dont want to be with her anymore. i just want to know what to say to her. im really angry for her to be playing with me like this. i just want to know what you would say to her if you were in my position. or what i should just do. i know most of you will say to ignore her but i feel like thats not enough. i need to let her know what she did and is doing to me is wrong. please help me.
lkjh Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Just ignore her. If you let her see what she is doing to you she will not respect you. You will be that guy that chases after the girl that doesn't want him. Ignore her and she will try to contact you but do not respond.
carhill Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 i know most of you will say to ignore her but i feel like thats not enough. i need to let her know what she did and is doing to me is wrong. please help me. OK, I won't say ignore her. How about dating her best friend? Seriously, that's what you need to do. She's exhibiting normal young female behavior. She has lots of options; lots of men approaching her. Sexual popularity is power. She's learning about it and hopefully how to manage it in a healthy way. "Missing you" is managing it in an unhealthy and selfish way. It's called an ego feed. Again, date other young ladies. Expect this to happen again and again. It stops when you're dead
Teuen101 Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 OK, I won't say ignore her. How about dating her best friend? I wouldnt suggest this - I had my high school sweet heart brake up and then she tells me how her best friend is intrested in me - so I dated the best friend all along it was some sort of stupid test- then both of them hated me- looking back they we're both stupid and I wasted my time with both of them.. Best thing you can do is poof on her- make her wonder-
carhill Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Sure the best friend thing rarely ever works out (but can be fun if you're emotionally detached), but I meant it, in jest, as a message to get out there and date other young ladies. When one is busy, silence can be a by-product, not in design but merely by execution. Win-win
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