maddieparker Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 my boyfriend and i have been dating for a while now and he just left for boot camp. i know i have to be strong for both of us to get through this but i never knew it could be so hard. in almost two years the longest we were ever apart was a long weekend, and now hell be gone for six years except for short visits after feburary. i dont know what to so. i cannot sleep i cannot eat and im trying so hard to keep it together. ive been having panic attacks and really dramatic and embarissing outbursts at work. does anyone here know how i can control these feelings even a little? _mp
Author maddieparker Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 somebody please help me...
Ronni_W Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Hugs, Maddie. I know it's rough but there really isn't much I can so that you don't know or that you haven't already heard or thought of. It's kind of just about accepting that this is the current reality, and that you must find ways to live with it and get through it. What kind of thoughts might be able to motivate you to start to at least try to take better care of your physical self? Maybe you'll do that because you DO want to be able to be genuinely strong and self-reliant, and be able to show that side of you to your b/f so he doesn't have to also be stressed worrying about you, on top of all the stuff that he's got to be dealing with at boot camp. Or maybe it'll help somewhat if you start envisioning what type of woman you want to be in 6 years...when you guys get back on track to building/developing your happy and successful future together? And then, what do you need to start doing now, in order to be that woman that you want to be then? They say that Life doesn't give us more than we can handle (though I'm not really sure who "they" are, who keep saying that ), so does the thought that you WILL get through this bring you any comfort at all? And if not that thought, what other one might? It's about being kind to, and gentle with, yourself and just choosing one tiny thought at a time, that will help you feel better. Small, tender baby steps will be fine.
LakesideDream Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Six week boot? You don't know how sweet that is. Six weeks was the "half-way" back in the day. Seriously that's an easy haul. Rest assured that he's gonna be spending all his spare moments (8.4 minutes a day) thinking about you, and all the fun you guys have had together. When he's done he will worship you. Patience is something a person learns. None of us are born with it. Babies/Children want everything NOW ! We learn to wait a little as we grow up. When we reach adulthood we are supposed to have enough patience to get through life at least a bit. This is your chance to practice what you have learned about patience.
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