Meeting girls at college

[az77]

So basically, I just started college this year and also just turned 18 years of age and sadly, have never had a girlfreind before because I was too fearful of rejection, which is not the case anymore. So, Ever since I started college I've been confused as to how/when/where I should be meeting girls. Every day in classes and the library I sit beside nice looking girls that I am interested in, however, I don't know how to start a conversation with them or get them interested in talking to me, so I end up saying nothing and leaving after my work is done. I look fine physicaly and dress well every day, so I don't think that is the a problem. I also have trouble talking to girls about interesting things, I remember when I came here in September, many girls would talk to me but I wouldn't have much to say and eventually they would stop talking to me.

 

My goal is to meet new girls more often in classes, library etc, go out on some dates and eventually have a nice girlfreind.

 

Any suggestions are welcome, thanks guys

[awesomeness43]

If you're at a university, it should be cake. Frats, through friends, parties, on campus or dorms and local eateries. I don't know if it was necessarily the best route to go, but for me i would usually just ask them what major they are and joke that i was completely clueless.

 

Just be so full of yourself and walk around like you are the best thing around and a gift to women and be friendly and have a sense of humor.

[Green]

I would suggest joining a Fraternity... Just don't drink to much!

[az77]

thanks guys, anyone else?

[Green]

so are you going to pledge a frat next semester?

[kashmir]

You can join a frat if you want, but you don't need to stoop to that level.

 

Do a sport instead. If not a varsity sport then a pretty serious club sport. They'll generally have all the social benefits frats have, except you actually do something productive, instead of sitting around playing beer pong and getting girls drunk/rufied enough to have sex 3 times a week.

 

Of course, I'm not one to talk about having success with girls, but that's due to myself, not the activities I do. Trust me - don't join a frat, but do SOMETHING. There are plenty of other groups that have regular parties that aren't frats.

[kashmir]

Just be so full of yourself and walk around like you are the best thing around and a gift to women

 

Are you kidding?

[awesomeness43]

Are you kidding?

 

 

i kid you not.

[kashmir]

Look man, I'm all for feeling comfortable in your own skin, but that seems a tad extreme. NOBODY is ANYBODY'S "gift." That's silly to think that. I'm not a gift to any girls just as they aren't gifts to me.

 

Besides, guys who usually think like that are usually full of **** anyway.

 

OP, just like yourself, but don't love yourself. Realize your potential and make it happen, but also realize that you're just a person and you have limits and restrictions. Compare yourself to you alone but not to others. Everything has a balance.

[Green]

Join a social frat that goes for you too kashmir... I gaurantee one of the frats will fit your style...

[kashmir]

Join a social frat that goes for you too kashmir... I gaurantee one of the frats will fit your style...

 

No thanks. I don't have the time for one anyway.

[berrieh]

What are you interested in?

 

The best way to be interesting to others is to find/develop interests so you have something to talk about---the better you know yourself and the more you develop your interests, the more you'll have to say.

 

If you already have interests, then, talk about those! And learn about hers by asking questions.

 

It gets easier as you keep talking to people.

[Green]

you should give me an all expense paid trip to your college and I'll throw you a party like in Van Wilder

[Mahatma]

Dude... I do not know how you could be having a problem with girls in college. I am having a problem with girls not understanding I am taken. If you are at a university, you are probably around a good 10,000 prospective girls around your age.

 

by far the best place in my opinion to meet sexy girls though is the gym. If I ever broke up with my girlfriend, the gym I work out at on campus would be the first place I'd run through.

[Humbleman]

NOBODY is ANYBODY'S "gift."

 

You're wrong, I most certainly am and so are plenty more men out there who know how great they are.

[You'reasian]

I look fine physicaly and dress well every day, so I don't think that is the a problem. I also have trouble talking to girls about interesting things, I remember when I came here in September, many girls would talk to me but I wouldn't have much to say and eventually they would stop talking to me.

 

My goal is to meet new girls more often in classes, library etc, go out on some dates and eventually have a nice girlfreind.

 

Any suggestions are welcome, thanks guys

 

1. Keep prospective females laughing - but only if you are naturally a funny person. Doing so otherwise will come across as trying too hard. Find your style of humor and perfect it.

 

A famous woman once said that any man that could keep her laughing would have his way with her.

 

2. Be genuine. All the time. Do not discuss intellectually stimulating topics until you guys are comfortable enough spending several hours together.

 

3. Be respectful. She's got to do her girly stuff, don't laugh at it - instead gently tease her about it.

 

4. Pick up ballroom dancing. Seems gay, but women love a guy that can dance - more importantly dance well. They say they can read alot about a guy when they partner dance or someone whose not afraid to get on stage?

 

5. Have fun. Flirt with her at every chance. Any chance.

 

6. Be reliable.

 

Dating in college should be about fun. Take your time. Don't rush.

[kashmir]

You're wrong, I most certainly am and so are plenty more men out there who know how great they are.

 

Honestly, by calling yourself a gift, you're demeaning yourself. You're suggesting you're some sort of material commodity for women's enjoyment, much like a dildo. That's right, if you think you're a gift to women, then you're essentially saying you're a giant talking dildo. Congratulations. Personally, I don't like to think of myself in that manner. I don't like to think of myself as being anyone's possession. I don't like to think that I'm giving myself to anyone. If women see me or talk to me and get turned on, then good for them, but I'm not thinking about it nor am I intending to make them feel that way. Maybe that could be my problem...that I'm really not thinking or caring if I turn women on, and thus I view everyone platonically. Maybe so, but hey, at least I'm not a narcissist, or a dildo.

[berrieh]

You're wrong, I most certainly am and so are plenty more men out there who know how great they are.

 

I think any man or woman who thinks they are a "gift" to anyone else or the world at large is largely delusional and annoying as hell.

 

Not too terribly long ago, I was set up on a blind date with a guy who thought he was super-fantastic because he owned his own business and had 3 degrees (bachelors level). Longest hour of my life. Only stayed that long to be polite because he was a friend of a friend. He thought he was a gift to the world, but, really, he was a tool.

 

His business went under recently and I kind of cheered (he'd already laid off all the workers, so no one but him to worry about). Maybe some adversity will help him become more aware of his place in the infinite. We are all very small pieces of this world.

[awesomeness43]

Honestly, by calling yourself a gift, you're demeaning yourself. You're suggesting you're some sort of material commodity for women's enjoyment, much like a dildo. That's right, if you think you're a gift to women, then you're essentially saying you're a giant talking dildo. Congratulations. Personally, I don't like to think of myself in that manner.

 

you sound a bit insecure. hey, whatever works for you. to each their own.

im just saying im very comfortable with myself and by no means do i consider myself being used, or in your words... a dildo.

 

the guys that think that usually have alot to offer women, not necessarily cocky or full of it, but know that they are a catch. maybe you just dont bring anything to the table? No animosity, just a thought... where are you in life?

[kashmir]

you sound a bit insecure. hey, whatever works for you. to each their own.

im just saying im very comfortable with myself and by no means do i consider myself being used, or in your words... a dildo.

 

the guys that think that usually have alot to offer women, not necessarily cocky or full of it, but know that they are a catch. maybe you just dont bring anything to the table? No animosity, just a thought... where are you in life?

 

Heh, last thing I need is someone like you telling me these things. Keep your judgments about total strangers to yourself.

 

There's a fine difference between being confident and being narcissistic. Based on what you're writing, you're definitely coming off as a narcissist.

[studmuffinator]

Hey

 

Just wanted to post this because you seem to be in the situation that I was once. I found this book that really helps. I was having a hard time finding a girl because I'm not that outgoing.

 

I was on the internet trying to find tips and ran across this site. It looks like one of those scam sites but I was getting really frustrated with my situation so I tried it. I read it and it's got some great tips and examples. It's written by a woman so it also has some great insight on what different woman think about dating and guys and their actions.

 

I was just trying to find a girl like you to have fun with and maybe go to something more and met this one who I have been dating now for a couple of months. She's totally funny and down to earth. All guys should have this book. It will teach any guy some new things, even the coolest dude out there who has no problem finding girls will learn something.

 

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[Perry]

az77, do you have problems starting conversations and holding one with guys?

 

If not, then isn't it basically the same with women?

 

You may think it is different because that particular person is female?

 

Think back to all the times you started a a conversation with a guy. Could you have done that if he were a she?

 

Put yourself in a mindset that starting a conversation and holding it with a guy is basically the same with women.

 

You will be just fine if you can do that, and then say something like: "I have to get going, but would you like to pick this up over at ______ sometime this week?"

 

Also, keep in mind that asking a woman out to go do something is basically the same as asking a guy out to go do something.

 

Think about it. Isn't it?

 

A few tips for ya:

 

1.) If she is sitting near you in class, write out a diagram of a tic tac toe game, don't say anything, and hand it to her with a smile.

 

2.) During one of those hot summers, or not, carry a couple of cold, COLD Cokes in your backpack, or bag. “You look hot, excuse the pun.” Then hand her a Coke. Then get a conversation going.

 

If you can be funny about it, say something like: “Could you hurry up and drink that? I recycle, and I need to get going.” Laugh it off, in case she is the serious type.

 

Another one could be: After you say “you’re welcome” to her “thank you,” wait one second, and then hold out your hand and say: “That’ll be seventy-five scents.” SMILE!

 

If you can pull this one off, by all means try it: Imitate a cell phone ringing. … Just a simple ring. Do it a couple of times, and then look at her, with your hands raised up in the air as if to say: “Is that your phone ringing?” Then look in your bag, while still imitating the ring. Pull out the Coke bottle, act like you are turning the phone on to answer it by twisting the cap, and then say “hello.” Then hand it to her, and say: “It’s for you.”

 

3.) Carry around your iPod or phone, and then play dumb. Tell her that you can’t figure out how to work it, and ask her if she knows anything about it. If you can be funny about it, say something like: “Hi. You look like a nerd, I’m having problems with this and I can’t figure it out….”

 

Most women like to help guys out. Their motherly instinct kicks in. So work that angle. It could be asking them to help you with your tie, or, getting a stain out of your shirt. “Excuse me, do you have anything to get this out?”

 

Use anything to get her to help you with it, thus having the time to talk to her.

 

Then turn that conversation into a date.

 

Perry

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