joanneg Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I am divorced and ready to meet new people. I don't know how to go about it. I was married for fourteen years and spent the majority of the time taking care of my family. I have friends but they are all married. I don't like to go to bars. I'm not looking to jump into a relationship but I would like to make friends with people like me and maybe think about dating again. Any thoughts?
PWSX3 Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I have been taking some classes at a local church & I have met some really nice people. We have done things as a group & it has been fun. Bigger church's have all kinds of classes, in fact this church has a singles group........ I also joined a bicycle club but most of them are married, but I have fun and when we stop for breaks you always meet others riding & you just start talking. I'm not ready to date so I don't have all that many ideas, but I like hanging out in big groups for now.
Chivalri Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Meeting people is one of the hardest things I think, especially as you get into and out of long term relationships. A lot of people I know met people later in life at work. If you have a job where you work in a team or meet a lot of people regularly, maybe you can take more time to join a social committee, plan more outings, and try to get to know more people you may not have had time to before. I have also had a lot of success joining local clubs. Whatever your interest is, I am willing to bet there is a local club or chapter where people meet to do it, plan it, or talk about it. From local book clubs to bike riding as the other poster suggested. Don't forget local alumni associations from your college if you attended a larger one or live nearby. Another great way is community service. There are always tons of organizations needing help - especially this time of year - and you can almost always work with others. Build a house with habitat, serve soup at a soup kitchen, team up with someone and take donations for salvation army...the list goes on. I find that branching out and meeting new people will soon lead to either married friends setting you up with single friends, or naturally meeting more single people. Either way, you may find a special connection! If things in real life aren't working out, try online dating or social networking. A number of my friends have found really strong relationships this way - or at least some people to talk to when they are lonely. There are lots of sites out there, so take the time to browse and find the right one for you.
ilmw Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Some good advise here... I recommend online dating.... I work shift work... and have my son part time.... Made it hard to meet people.... I met my present "interest" online... but that was after several..... "attempts":laugh: Did you know... some people actually misrepresent themselves.....:laugh: Just be smart about it.... don't divulge to much personal stuff... and meet in public places.... etc Most importantly..... make sure... you are ready to meet people.... Once you don't care if you are with someone .... that is in my opinion.... when you are ready... Good luck, ilmw
Posco_Proudfoot Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Some good advise here... I recommend online dating.... I work shift work... and have my son part time.... Made it hard to meet people.... I met my present "interest" online... but that was after several..... "attempts":laugh: Did you know... some people actually misrepresent themselves.....:laugh: Just be smart about it.... don't divulge to much personal stuff... and meet in public places.... etc Most importantly..... make sure... you are ready to meet people.... Once you don't care if you are with someone .... that is in my opinion.... when you are ready... Good luck, ilmw When you say "online" are you saying the pay personal online services like yahoo, eharmony, etc?
ilmw Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 When you say "online" are you saying the pay personal online services like yahoo, eharmony, etc? Nope some of them are scams! Plentyofish is what I used! Met some decent people on there... they just were not my cup of tea. Like I said.... be careful with your personal info... because with anything... you just never know. ilmw
motive2002 Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Did you know... some people actually misrepresent themselves.....:laugh: hahhaaha.. gee ya think? I had a good chuckle over that. Thanks. Yes, do be careful when meeting someone online. It's incredibly easy to idealize someone if they aren't right there in front of you, and it's also very easy to put up a huge front. I think one of the best online resources, is not dating sites per se, but local clubs. Take something your passionate about, and see if there's a local organization, club or get together for that sort of thing. Common interests right off the bat with new people to meet!
ilmw Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 hahhaaha.. gee ya think? I had a good chuckle over that. Thanks. Yes, do be careful when meeting someone online. It's incredibly easy to idealize someone if they aren't right there in front of you, and it's also very easy to put up a huge front. I think one of the best online resources, is not dating sites per se, but local clubs. Take something your passionate about, and see if there's a local organization, club or get together for that sort of thing. Common interests right off the bat with new people to meet! That's a great idea.... it is also a good thing to do when you first break up... to re-gain your life... get a hobby!
Posco_Proudfoot Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Nope some of them are scams! Plentyofish is what I used! Met some decent people on there... they just were not my cup of tea. Like I said.... be careful with your personal info... because with anything... you just never know. ilmw See, isn't that awesome ! I've been out of the game so long the whole infrastructure of online dating has changed. I never even heard of the website until now. They're probably not my cup of tea either, I just want all options open to move on with my life.
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