Brady_to_Moss Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Is it a fun time or a time to settle down with a nice young lady..how only were you when you meet your bf/gf
jason83 Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 You tell me. Is there a special girl that you feel could have something to offer you for the rest of your life? If you feel strongly about someone, I think you would be silly to not give it a shot. And if you don't feel anything for anyone, enjoy yourself! This is your time. Have fun. Go out. Look out for number one! If you meet that special girl, great! If not, great! Either way there is something out there for you and you'll find it one day when the time is right.
Green Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Life got alot better for me after college. Seriously I don't even understand how having fun or finding a special girl are either or? I've had a lot of fun finding special girls
kashmir Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 When people say, "Don't worry about finding anyone special. Just have fun with as many girls as you can," I kinda get irked, since that's such an empty answer. I'm fine with waiting for someone special to come, but obviously if I could just go out and have fun with girls I wouldn't feel like I had a problem and feel so bad. People make it sound easier that it really is. People at this age, and especially girls, judge and talk - two things that go horribly together. Later in life people aren't as connected with one another and they're generally too busy to really care to judge you or talk about you. Unfortunately it's not that way at this age. You do something that somebody doesn't like, despite all the good things you might have done, that one negative thing shuts the door on that person and everyone they talk to. It spreads like a virus. People I've never met have negative prejudices about me. This sucks, because no matter where someone like me goes, there will always be someone who despises you who will open his/her mouth to everyone else. This makes it impossible to just have fun.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 When people say, "Don't worry about finding anyone special. Just have fun with as many girls as you can," I kinda get irked, since that's such an empty answer. I'm fine with waiting for someone special to come, but obviously if I could just go out and have fun with girls I wouldn't feel like I had a problem and feel so bad. People make it sound easier that it really is. People at this age, and especially girls, judge and talk - two things that go horribly together. Later in life people aren't as connected with one another and they're generally too busy to really care to judge you or talk about you. Unfortunately it's not that way at this age. You do something that somebody doesn't like, despite all the good things you might have done, that one negative thing shuts the door on that person and everyone they talk to. It spreads like a virus. People I've never met have negative prejudices about me. This sucks, because no matter where someone like me goes, there will always be someone who despises you who will open his/her mouth to everyone else. This makes it impossible to just have fun. I feel the exact same way. 100% hear you and your right, it does suck.
Chivalri Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Basically it boils down to what you are looking for. I have generally steered away from the 'just for fun' activities since they tend to mark you as something undesirable as one other poster pointed out (Something I have sometimes regretted, but never for long). If you want to have some fun, meet some people, and see what develops, then try it out. The worst that happens is it doesn't work out too well for you and you try something else. Once you leave college, things slow down quite a bit (a lot) as you meet fewer and fewer young people, the focus shifts to career and money, and a lot of people who met someone in college decide to get married. Have fun if that what you want to do, but don't pass up the real thing if you are luck enough to find it - many people find their life long partner in college.
kashmir Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 many people find their life long partner in college. That really makes me sad.
Chivalri Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 That really makes me sad. Some of them are happy forever, many are not. I don't think the age matters much in terms of long term happiness
CandyGirlXO Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Some of them are happy forever, many are not. I don't think the age matters much in terms of long term happiness Yes, has made me sad also, since I am done with college, and I thought I would find my husband there. Then I remember not trying to be pessimistic but you have a 50/50 chance when it comes to marriage. They MIGHT be happy NOW, but 50% of all marriages end in the US.
berrieh Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Personally, I didn't want to meet anyone too serious in college because I thought I'd be moving right after. (I had a LTR but not with a guy I thought I'd marry.) I think it depends on the person. College is a great time to meet that person. So is later. As long as you still feel like a 'whole' person and you can accomplish your goals, go for it when you're ready and you meet someone you like that much.
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