alwayssme Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 This has always been complicated so I wont get into details. So my ex boyfriend is now hanging out with his ex girlfriend (let's call her Maria) . She used to always try to break us up by making up all kind of lies about me.There was this guy I dated for awhile (lets call him Sean) before I got with my ex boyfriend. Once Maria told my ex him I cheated on him with Sean and i NEVER cheated on him. Sad part is that at first he believed her and that caused us a lot of arguments. All four of us know each other which sucks. I had stopped talking to Sean because my ex was very jealous of him. When we broke up me and Sean became friends again and my ex knows. I'm worried Maria has bull****ted him about things and I feel like there are things going on that I have no idea about. My ex has completely cut off contact with me and I have no idea why. He kept in touch regularly untill recently... Sorry if the story was too complicated...Basically my question is do i call him to clarify things or do I just go completely NC? I would HATE it if he thinks things about me that are not true. I know I sound paranoid but trust me I have my reasons. His ex would do anything to have him hate me and for us to never talk again. And my ex believes her no matter how much she lies. It's one thing for him to leave me but still think highly of me with respect...then to believe lies about me cheating on him, esp. now that he knows me and Sean are talking... I don't want him to hate me for no reason....My life can be like a freakin soap opera!! Guys what do I do? All my friends think she has def. told him BS because she always did...Do I call him or just let the whole situation go, even if it means him thinking wrong of me?
Surfer Dude Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 If you really care what he thinks about you, then by all means do contact him and try to straighten out any issues that might be bothering you. But if you don't care what your ex thinks about you (and you should never care), NC all the way. As for me, I really couldn't care less what my ex thinks about me. Probably all sorts of nasty sh*t. But I told her goodbye forever and it doesn't matter what happens anymore, what anyone says or thinks. It's over. You should decide whether his opinion is that important to you, that you would initiate contact once again, and potentially set yourself for another disappointment.
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