alwayssme Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Hey everyone!! I'm writing here to get any advice on NOT CONTACTING my ex...it is driving me insane!! Yesterday I went to a friends house party to celebrate Thanksgiving. It went well, took my mind off things for awhile. Then all of a sudden I had this nausea feeling because i looked around at all my friends and everything was how it has always been...except my ex wasnt there. I had a flashback of times when he was right next to me in occasions like this. I felt soooo sad in the middle of laughing with my friends, I actually had to run upstairs to the bathroom so I wouldn't cry or show any hurt in front of people. All of a sudden this sad song started playing...Not only did it remind me of him because of the lyrics but also because I used to play it with him in the car. I was in the bathroom crying...in the middle of a party. I had not missed him that much in awhile. All those feelings just came rushing in, the memories...ahhh!! it was hard, i just wanted to go home. But I went back downstairs and started dancing with a friend. That party made me live a glimpse of the past with the harsh reality of the present. Guys I miss him soooooooooooooooooo much, I just want to call him and hear his voice....but I know he'll just act cold and that will hurt me. Also he didnt even text me or call me for the holiday...he hasnt contacted me in a little over 2 weeks now, and thats weird because ever since our break-up he would contact me at least twice a week. I wonder why he cut me off completely? He has been hangin out with this girl who used to tell him all kinds of lies about me...I wonder if thats the case now..if he heard something that made him hate me?? I hate this...I just want to talk to him
EmperorR Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 I've been there, hell even right now I want to contact my ex, but trust me you will only feel good for a little bit before the crash happens. Even you admitted it you know he will act cold and harsh, he knows your number he knows how to reach you if he wanted. That's what I keep telling myself everytime I want to contact my ex, she knows my number my email address its been 67 days adn all i got is a half ass text. You have to stop wondering what he is doing, stop wondering about that girl, it doesn't matter what she tells him etc, keep yourself busy
9Lives Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 If you think you feel bad now....make that call. Take the feeling you have right now and multiple it times 10. Get over it....meaning dont call him
fabulousgal Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 good for you coming here first. it shows control! i know it hurts. but it would be so much worse talking to him. and to him you seem like you are getting on even though you may not feel it. i understand your pain, im deep in it right now.
TeaAbraham Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Those are just memories, alwaysme. I felt them yesterday too. But things are different now. It's sad, but you will feel the way you felt last thanksgiving again. Just not with him.
ioncebelieved Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 If you think you feel bad now....make that call. Take the feeling you have right now and multiple it times 10. Get over it....meaning dont call him That's right on the money there! I did this twice since being in NC for 5 months and it really made me feel crappy. It has been well over a month and a half since my last communication and all it really showed me that she was not really interested in contacting me back since I left that HUGE BALL in her court. It stings some, but I now know there is NO sense in ever contacting her again! If your ex truly wants to communicate, they will!!! Contacting is a good way to show yourself where you stand with them only! Sad but true, and I do not like it any more than you.
9Lives Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 it is definately punishment to deal with a ex. I cant go there anymore. My ex dont want me back. Not now anyway or maybe ever but I will be okay
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