ninjaturtles Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Hi everyone, If anyone remembers me, my ex and I broke up Sept 2007. We have not seen each other since then. He was cold to me after the break up and I was very hurt etc. We have spoken on the phone just once since that time; However towards summer 08, we started to have very light contact. Eg via email etc. For the past 2 months, he started behaving very nice to me!! Anyway, we are meeting up after so long. Nothing major. Just to catch up. I am a bit apprehensive as I have not seen him since we split. Infact that last time we saw, we were actually still together. We broke up over the the phone (He dumped me). It was so hard on me...I don't even want to think about the hurt I went through. I may feel embarrased when I see him because he dumped me and I wrote him letters expressing my grief. I have moved on and have no need to ask him any questions about the break up whatso ever. I have moved passed that. However I need some advice regarding how to behave. I know it will be very hard for me to look him in the eye...lol. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
northstar1 Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Hi everyone, If anyone remembers me, my ex and I broke up Sept 2007. We have not seen each other since then. He was cold to me after the break up and I was very hurt etc. We have spoken on the phone just once since that time; However towards summer 08, we started to have very light contact. Eg via email etc. For the past 2 months, he started behaving very nice to me!! Anyway, we are meeting up after so long. Nothing major. Just to catch up. I am a bit apprehensive as I have not seen him since we split. Infact that last time we saw, we were actually still together. We broke up over the the phone (He dumped me). It was so hard on me...I don't even want to think about the hurt I went through. I may feel embarrased when I see him because he dumped me and I wrote him letters expressing my grief. I have moved on and have no need to ask him any questions about the break up whatso ever. I have moved passed that. However I need some advice regarding how to behave. I know it will be very hard for me to look him in the eye...lol. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks What are you feelings towards him now? Do you still love him? Will seeing him be hard on you?
Author ninjaturtles Posted November 28, 2008 Author Posted November 28, 2008 It's so weird....because I do still have feelings for him however I have moved on. Sounds contradictory, but I don't need him anymore. I definitely still have feelings for him, but it has been so long since we set eyes on each other. Who knows, maybe I may realise I do not have any feelings for him after we meet in person. I do want to see him though, I am very curious. Other times I wonder if I could actually face him. lol.
Author ninjaturtles Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 It's so weird....because I do still have feelings for him however I have moved on. Sounds contradictory, but I don't need him anymore. I definitely still have feelings for him, but it has been so long since we set eyes on each other. Who knows, maybe I may realise I do not have any feelings for him after we meet in person. I do want to see him though, I am very curious. Other times I wonder if I could actually face him. lol. I don't think I will see him anymore. No point. I do not want to be set back especially if he does not want a reconciliation. I see no point.
Crazy.S Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I feel the same way sometimes. But I have kept myself from calling my ex and meeting up with her. Especially since she has a new bf now. I don't know if it is a serious relationship or a rebound. Nonetheless I feel like I have no right to bother her. I thought I was moving on, but these holidays are the toughest. I hate being lonely, because I start to think of the memories we had over our four years together. I really want to see her, but I am afraid it will set me back too. Like you, I am not sure how I feel about her anymore. I know I miss her but I don't know if I still love her. And what is the point? I don't think I can give her another chance after she lied to me and gave me false hopes. She even broke up with me over the phone. She got a new bf 1 month after she moved away. Sometimes I want to say **** it but I can't forget how much I loved her and how special she was to me. It seems like a big blur to me now.
Peter_pan Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I feel the same way sometimes. But I have kept myself from calling my ex and meeting up with her. Especially since she has a new bf now. I don't know if it is a serious relationship or a rebound. Nonetheless I feel like I have no right to bother her. I thought I was moving on, but these holidays are the toughest. I hate being lonely, because I start to think of the memories we had over our four years together. I really want to see her, but I am afraid it will set me back too. Like you, I am not sure how I feel about her anymore. I know I miss her but I don't know if I still love her. And what is the point? I don't think I can give her another chance after she lied to me and gave me false hopes. She even broke up with me over the phone. She got a new bf 1 month after she moved away. Sometimes I want to say **** it but I can't forget how much I loved her and how special she was to me. It seems like a big blur to me now. wow totally with you mate sad times its just so ****e isnt it. the fact this person you thought the world of just goes onto someone new right away.
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