alasia Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Hi, i really need some advice because if i dont sort this then i will have to end the relationship. ok...me and my partner have been together on and off for 2yrs, and have two children together. things were rocky at first and we split after 6 months. got back together this february and things are great,but im having issues with the fact he briefly started seeing someone when we were broken up. i know i shouldnt care because we werent together, the extent of their relationship was that they went out for drinks one nite then slept together,then did the same a week later then she stopped contacting him - but at the time he was sleeping with her he was telling me he still had feelings for me. we slept together a wk before he first went out with her,plus he was meant to be coming round to see our son the days he went out with her,and he let me down at the last minute. mainly tho i hate the fact he went to her house, that he must have spent a few wks flirting with her while he was acting like he still loved me, i keep picturing her and imagining what they might have done in bed or how well they must have got on,and its killing me. i love my partner but i keep asking for details of what happened between them. he says he regrets going with her, that the sex was rubbish and he had to think of other things to get aroused by her - and that it doesnt matter what happened with them cos it was a mistake and he loves me more than anything now. how do i put her out of my mind? he is 45, im 25 and shes the total opposite to me - she is quite big, 36,short and has short hair,whereas im slim and average height with long hair,so it also worries me that maybe she is really more his type? he works as a busdriver and today he told me she does sometimes catch his bus with her new partner. they dont talk but lastnite i admitted id sent her a text message pretending to be him after the 2nd time they had slept together and he said he had realised he didnt want to be with her and she didnt contact him again after that. now he knows i did that what if they start talking again? anyway sorry for such a long post but i need a kick up the rearend on this or i risk ruining my relationship! thanks.
ashleigh422 Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Either you trust him or you don't. If you are obsessed with this and think of him as being dishonest.. then leave him now. Don't hold a grudge becuase in the long run.. it will ruin the relationship anyways!! What you did to him.. texting her.. that is not an honest thing to do. If he could forgive you perhaps you could return the favor.
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