finding out stuff later on

[Teuen101]

You know the the internet is a powerful tool- just today I was playing around with photobucket and you'll never guess what I ran across- I found some pic's of my ex and her new boyfriend with the date on them..eh.. not that it matters much now, thats all water under the bridge so to say. But it just proved me right all along she was with this guy like 4 days after our brake up.. she put the guilt on me thick and here I was after all right about everything.! I can think back to how bad I was hurting at the time them pic's were taken and see how happy she looks with her new man- I remember the guilt I was feeling - how hurt I was how I blamed my self- I wish- I could have found them pic's then.

 

how can a person just jump from person to person that way without any care? oh well lol- she is his problem now- i feel nothing at all..

 

not that I hope my ex will do bad b/c i want them to do good /grin

 

But i'd like to hear some people tails of how they found out stuff later on- I'd love to hear how people found out about their ex doing bad or getting crapped on after they dumped you and craped on you i think them are the best..

[SarahT111]

Wel if it makes you feel any better I found out my ex was having an affair with another male and is infact gay or confused or something!

Doesn't get much worse than that trust me!!

[davidjor]

wow sarah, that is bad..... this guy did not give you any clues he just might be gay? How in the world did you find this out?

[Sysyphus28]

You know the the internet is a powerful tool- just today I was playing around with photobucket and you'll never guess what I ran across- I found some pic's of my ex and her new boyfriend with the date on them..eh.. not that it matters much now, thats all water under the bridge so to say. But it just proved me right all along she was with this guy like 4 days after our brake up.. she put the guilt on me thick and here I was after all right about everything.! I can think back to how bad I was hurting at the time them pic's were taken and see how happy she looks with her new man- I remember the guilt I was feeling - how hurt I was how I blamed my self- I wish- I could have found them pic's then.

 

how can a person just jump from person to person that way without any care? oh well lol- she is his problem now- i feel nothing at all..

 

not that I hope my ex will do bad b/c i want them to do good /grin

 

But i'd like to hear some people tails of how they found out stuff later on- I'd love to hear how people found out about their ex doing bad or getting crapped on after they dumped you and craped on you i think them are the best..

 

I felt like a total douche when I found out after a summer of waiting for her to come back and thinking we would reconcile and it would all be ok, I saw her txt messages on her phone!!

 

They were sexual and they were romantic and they certainly were not sent to me. It was horrible. I was blind to the fact that sh** was probably in the making for months...........Goes to show/.

They were not the one for you.

[CarrieT]

Wel if it makes you feel any better I found out my ex was having an affair with another male and is infact gay or confused or something!

Doesn't get much worse than that trust me!!

 

Sure it does -- I was married (20 years ago) and came home early from work one day to find my husband in a people puddle with three other guys...

 

Is it any wonder I can't find a good relationship?

[EmperorR]

I found out she lied to me when she said she wanted to be alone and was already dating another guy.

[You'reasian]

Wel if it makes you feel any better I found out my ex was having an affair with another male and is infact gay or confused or something!

Doesn't get much worse than that trust me!!

 

That's f-ed up. Sorry to hear this!

[frd150]

Its been along time since the break up that brought me here but it wasnt till recently that she confirmed that she had moved to a new guy immediatly. I was and still am sooo angry:mad:. I guess everyone was protecting me even her in a sick way. I never really new (i dont do facebook or myspace). Oh, but she never stopped calling me to chat and make nice. Guilty maybe?

 

And here I was feeling soo guilty for working my a$$ off in those last few months...all so I could buy her the ring she deserved.

 

In the end I think it was good to have confirmation. I will no longer get those pangs of guilt while Im on dates:).

[darnay]

after I was dumped I had an interesting conversation with an acquaintance who enlightened me to the fact that my ex partner was listed on every gay dating and/or gay sex orientated site on the internet - with lovely photo's of him in every imaginable position.

 

As this guy commented to me "basically if you're gay and you haven't seen a photo of his ass you're in the minority!"

[BackonTrack2]

Its been along time since the break up that brought me here but it wasnt till recently that she confirmed that she had moved to a new guy immediatly. I was and still am sooo angry:mad:. I guess everyone was protecting me even her in a sick way. I never really new (i dont do facebook or myspace). Oh, but she never stopped calling me to chat and make nice. Guilty maybe?

 

And here I was feeling soo guilty for working my a$$ off in those last few months...all so I could buy her the ring she deserved.

 

In the end I think it was good to have confirmation. I will no longer get those pangs of guilt while Im on dates:).

 

 

Same here, turns out the ex was bored or something and played it cool with me for a while. Like I knew she was leaving but she never did and I thought I was safe, it turns out that she was leaving, she was having an affair on me, and then used me until she fell in love and then started acting like weird and distant and i never knew what was up with her but her best friend informed me she had moved on and was ****ing someone else.

 

In the end, I took it really bad and family member's started to contact the girl to which the girl said and I quote

 

"I did nothing wrong"

"I need to learn to communicate"

"She's in a serious relationship"

"Her boyfriend is 6'2, 215 pounds"

"Please don't tell him I talked to you, it will only trigger him"

"Its all his fault"

"It was over since July of 07"

"I know he was doing him so I am doing me"

"I am just trying to keep the peace"

 

(reading these comments made me realize the relationship was already over, I just didn't know)

 

so I after I found out about the little talk, I bascially emailed the girl and said

a) You are a whore

b) I heared your new dude is 6'2, 215 punds, Please tell him to pick you up in the air, I am sure you would like that position

c) I could of had sex with your friend, thats why she doesn't want to give you back my sweater because she thinks I am going to go get it (your stupid)

d) I bet your new guy really loves you, I wonder what will happen if he found out I was still ****ing you (I didn't know I was the EX)

e) I don't know why they keep contacting you, you fooled everyone, they think you are a good person.

 

So that was that, about 2 weeks later, the email must of been bothering the girl (the truth hurts) and she called my brother and said

 

"ME, keeps emailing me, keeps texting me, keeps calling me, he is harassing me" so my brother took the phone and HUNG up on the girl so my friend trying to help, calls the girl back behind my back, and all I hear is

"So, so your in a serious relationship now HUH"

 

So I never heard back from the girl after that. It was May 12 of 08. Almost 6 months ago.

 

So when I was drunk and in the city, I texted her about 3 months ago in August and said "I am forgetting you, I don't remember you anymore, I threw away all your stuff, please do something" and I never got a response so thats that.

 

So in total, I've been NC since 4.1.08. I found out about the cheating 3.1.08. Turns out it started in 7.07 and contiuned on and off until 9.07 which is when she started acting strange and I sense she was leaving. Then she started to get distant around 12.07 and around 2.08 she stared coming back and things were getting better but in 03.08 I found out she was cheating and the breakup dragged on for about 2 weeks.

 

During the two weeks, she tried desperately to come back, I just kept rejecting her, telling her no until one time and I remember, she called me 3 or 4 times, I awoke and called her back, then I realized she had been cheating on me so I told her don't call me after business hours, then her voice changed and she said "Yes MY NAME"

 

After that day, she must of made the decision to leave me for good because after that day she stop answering calls and was acting like she didn't have to tell me anything and I sense this, it was getting way to bad so on 3.21 I fired her and washed my had clean of her.

 

But on 4.1.08 I realized I would never see her again and life was to short so I tried to get it back but I couldn't get out the words so I emailed her instead and she replied back and said "You seem to think the world revolves around you. You seem to think I should come at your every beck and call. I feel as if you have behavioral problems, prehaps you should go see a PHYSC on your own time. Its is clear you need a great deal of personal growth. We are have no future together. We are not together anymore. We are not even close friends. Please understand when I say I am severing the connection"

 

So now since I'm like 9 months removed from the situtation, from the tone of that email it would look like I did something wrong. Its almost like she blamed ME for her actions or something, I don't know, whatever, that chick is crazy.

 

But ah, its best if you don't find out any new information bout your EX, its best to let sleeping dogs lie. I stuck around and man I was stupid because

 

a) I learn the ex was "in-love" (whore)

b) She was "Happy"

c) She liked the guy and put him over me

 

So its like the longer I stayed in that bad situtation, the more hurtful things I seen which only delayed my healing process.... Oh yeah.. The one thing I will always remember was one day post-breakup she came over so I tried to have sex with her and she said

 

"Baby, you are going to make me cheat on my boyfriend" <-- that line is crazy. That damn whore, is some piece of work.

 

Then again I did **** with her too when I found out

"So baby, you are ****ing someone else. Was he better than me? Was he bigger than me? Did he **** you from the back like me, come on baby, you can tell me"

 

"That is not appropriate yada yada"

So as she is getting out the car, I just look at her and she says

"Are you going to hit me"

 

I said

"No baby, why would I hit you"

 

At the time, I didn't know the full extent of the betrayal. I probably would of hit her had I known but the events didn't start hitting me really until that email I got from her, after that I was broken and the relationship over the course of several months just came streaming in, bit by bit, the begining, the middle, the end.

 

LOL, that girl is a real peace of work.

Its sad though, I let that female destroy me for like 7 or 8 months. She couldn't of picked a better time too because thats when I just had secured the money for my business. Ofcourse I stop working and let it all go to **** and now I'm starting back from square1.

 

I don't know what happen, I just know the life I had planned out, didn't happen and I'm still recovering trying to pick the peaces of to continue where I left off.

 

But to answer your question, my EX EX, I found out she had sex with a friend of mine, before US.

 

I had broken up with her like the week before and I called her like angrly like "How come you didn't tell me X & X" and her reply was "because I knew you wouldn't be with me had you known" then she defended herself.

 

I remember thinking "YES, I'm glad it ended before I fell in love with her"

 

With my most recent EX, it ended when I was in FULL-BLOWN love with that girl. Destroyed me totatlly but the things I found out AFTER we broke up... EWWW, it wasn't pretty.

 

Turns out she was ****ing and sucking someone for MONTHS.

Turns out she was only coming around because I gave her MONEY.

Turns out her friends/family hated me.

Turns out she was semi-using me.

Turns out everything I thought wasn't true.

Turns out I was loving a lie.

 

Man, my most recent EX is the queen of disguise. I didn't know nothing, I was such a fool. I trusted her blindly then again she never gave me a reason to NOT TRUST HER, I did see several red-flags during the course of our relationship, I ignored them though (won't do that again)

 

But my EX EX (the one i left) has a PHD now, a kid whois 8, so she turned out good. SHe was always smart.

This EX though, was/is 21. She wanted to become a banker, hell I think her new guy is in the same career field, they met at work (how sweet). Maybe they will end up getting married, who knows.

 

For one reason or another my recent EX, started to think she was better than me, I don't really know why, I guess the new dude must of had his own place and then she started looking DOWN upon me like I was a child, I felt it too. But I sure did suprise he ass back in 2.08 when I got that nice luxrious apartment, then she started coming back.

 

I wonder if my most recent EX regrets her decision (I doubt it), its almost like that relationship was in a point in time when I was in college and now I'm a man on my own now, seems so ancient, then again it is ancient, that EX started cheating on me about this time last year, actually about Sep of Last year. So far her, she left what... Maybe 15 or 16 months ago. Me, I left like 9 or 8 months ago, so I'm sure she 100% forgot about me.

 

I saw my EX EX EX few months back, she looked 100% the same, but she had two babies.

[Knight_Ctrl]

heh, some of these are pretty funny. My last relationship was 2 years long....I found out that a year and a half of that she spent cheating on me with a bunch of guys. Still std free though, ooo yea.