motive2002 Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 ... honest, warm, kind.. and nowhere in my league. From different backgrounds, raised different. We have mutual friends. She's an inlaw of an inlaw.. so we see one another occasionally. I guess this is just more of a rant than anything. I could tell her how I feel, but the timing will never be right. It's just one of those people that feels like it would be so right, but it will never be. I hate the way so many people disappoint... the single life is like a minefield. It's discouraging to know that someone warm and caring is right there but so out of reach. Besides that, how are you guys doing? lol
awesomeness43 Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 its just ones opinion, you will never know unless you try....
Trialbyfire Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 So, what's stopping you from asking her out, instead of telling her how you feel? Would you be devastated if she said no or would you be where you are now?
Author motive2002 Posted November 28, 2008 Author Posted November 28, 2008 There's enough deal-breakers to know it wouldn't work out. It would just be so nice to meet someone like her, but that was a little more compatible.
Author motive2002 Posted November 28, 2008 Author Posted November 28, 2008 omgosh.. TBF in my thread. Well I'll lay out some basics. I'm a smoker. She's not. She was raised by good old boys, and I'm more of an urban type. Other things... I have to be honest with myself and who I am. It's hard to change who you are, and I fell into that trap before. I saw her tonight. I was invited for a Thanksgiving get together. She was lying on the floor with a pillow and a bunch of us were watching some movies (Iron Man was better than I thought.... worth a Red Box rental hehe) anyway, I had this deep desire to lie down beside her and enjoy the movie together... heh, maybe it's the good home cooked meal talking...
Trialbyfire Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Why wouldn't I be responding to your thread, motive? I'd like to see you happy with someone who's going to treat you right. Not all non-smokers draw the line with smokers. As for being raised a certain way, not all women want what they were raised with, either. I'm not saying she's willing because who knows except her. While I understand what you're saying about compatibilities, I think things like sharing honesty, integrity, foundational values matter far more than superficial or next tier compatibilities. Also, how you view relationships in general, how you react to down times or uncertainties, are key items. I dunno motive. Maybe I'm being a romantic but when you have a shot at someone who seems to be worthwhile, why not take the chance? Worse case scenario is that she'll say no and you'll be back where you are now. No?
Author motive2002 Posted November 28, 2008 Author Posted November 28, 2008 I like it when you're romantic. Hell, I like it when I'm romantic. It gives me a little hope where in the recent past after the breakup I had none. I still think you're my ex though... you're real identity that is. Do you like football? How about Billy Joel? hehe... This woman I mentioned, seems almost too serious. Someone that is stern, but polite.. however I get to see her laid back face once in a while.. and a smile that puts a little spark of joy in your insides. She really is something else
Trialbyfire Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 I'm not your ex, I'm not your ex, I'm not your ex! I don't watch football, except for the huddle and am not a big fan of Billy Joel. I threw up a few pics into my private album. You decide if I look like your ex! You're cute when you're crushing. So, once again, what's stopping you again...well...besides you, that is!
jason83 Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 When I first saw my girlfriend I thought she was definitely out of my league. I talked to her and it was amazing at how well we clicked! If I never gave it a shot, I would have missed out on the best thing that's ever happened to me! And you wanna know what the funny thing is? She admitted to me later that she had a huge crush on me and wanted to talk to me so badly but wasn't sure if I was interested. Give it a chance!
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