suny27 Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years. I really thought he was the one and sadly I still hold out hope that he might be. About a month ago I got a phone call early in the morning from his cell phone........it was his ex. She proceeded to tell me they had been together for 5 years off and on and he was sleeping in her bed right now! I was beyond mad! I had confronted him about this same girl a week before and he assured me it was nothing. She was crazy, not what he wanted.......blah, blah. I wanted to believe him but something told me it was a lie her phone call confirmed my suspisions. Without even thinking I jumped in my car and drove to her house. One of her children let me in and I found him in her bedroom arguing with her. She was making threats sayin she was going to stab him blah, blah........I yelled @ him. Thanked her for her call and left him there, feeling he deserved whatever he got I just didn't want to be a witness to it. Later he says he was drunk and that was the closest place he could stay to sober up. I was mad but I forgave him. He said he went to police station...she was crazy didn't know what she might do. Fast forward 1 month....and I find out he is still talking to her! He says its just regular friendly conversation but after all that happened! How could he? Checked the phone bill and there are mostly outgoing calls to her new cell number (he knew I would recognize house number) She called him twice compared to his 12 calls to her. I Love him and I want to trust him but how can I? What should i do? So Sick
officegirl Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Dump his ass .... pronto - ditto Like, yesterday. What a douche.
movingonandon Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Yep, dump-time, unfortunately. also, not to make fun your situation, but this is one of the better stories around here
Ocean-Blue Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 He continues to lie, and you continue to believe him. He could have sobered up elsewhere, but he chose her place. Why? At the worst, he does not respect you. He knows you don't like the contact with his ex, yet he persists. Why do you allow this to continue? I would leave him.
Geishawhelk Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 I wouldn't go so far as to reply "yes" to your opening question, but it really is a no-brainer problem you've put infront of us.. Your question should not be "What should I do?" but - "Does anyone know the name of a good locksmith?" Change the locks, dump all his stuff on the porch, change all your contact details and give him the proverbial middle digit. Stoopid.
troubadour Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 Well, it looks that if you don't dump him... than you are stupid. Sorry about the situation you have found yourself in.
Yamaha Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 That is your gut telling you he is a liar and no good. Listen to it. Don't you want a guy who respects you and isn't seeing someone behind your back? He is NOT the one.
norajane Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I was mad but I forgave him That was clearly a mistake. Trusting him now would be an enormous mistake. But, you looooooooove him! So what? And what exactly do you love about him? Just because you love someone doesn't mean you can or should be with him. Not when he's a big-ass liar.
amber01 Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 I know it is very hard to leave a relationship where we have put lots of intimacy and love into it. But... you gotta tell yourself.. are you feeling really love now.. if not time to say good bye
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