Gypsie Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 There is this guy I recently met. I met him through my room mate. He came back to ours after they had a night out and crashed. My room mate, he introduced us and we hit it off instantly. We ended up hanging out all morning. Then he invited me out with some of he's mates, including my room mate for Lunch. . This guy and I have been emailing eachother a few times since then. My room mate was saying (after he rang him about something) that he enjoyed my company, he seemed pretty keen and could see us being together BUT (there's always a but! ) he had just recently got out of a relationship a bit over a month ago. He wouldn't mind hanging out as mates and getting to know me more first before hand. In the meantime what happens if another opportunity to date someone else comes along? . Wondering do I turn them down and to wait and see if something happens with this guy or go out with them anyway? I mean we are only just friends at the moment...
Geishawhelk Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 If someone else comes along, tell him someone else has come along. How does he feel about that? You'll then see his true colours, whichever they may be.
Trimmer Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 My room mate was saying (after he rang him about something) that he enjoyed my company, he seemed pretty keen and could see us being together BUT (there's always a but! ) he had just recently got out of a relationship a bit over a month ago. He wouldn't mind hanging out as mates and getting to know me more first before hand. Was this last part your roommate's interpretation of the new friend's situation, or did the new friend actually tell your roommate "I'd like to hang out with her and get to know her more first..." etc? It seems like there is an extra link in the communications chain here that may be unreliable.
MN randomguy Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 You can't be committed to him if he's not committed to you. You can show interest in him, compliment body language, flirt, etc. If something else comes along, talk to him as your friend. "Oh, this guy asked me out. I think he's cute, do you think I should wear this, or, this" He can be afraid of getting hurt, but, that's not your fault.
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