loveinlife Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Has this happened to you guys/girls before when you date someone for over 6 months and isn't labled as gfs and bfs? I haven't met her family yet, its been 8 months already... i think this is a long time and is feeling ackward now that its not progressing. Kinda losing interest... I don't just want to date but to have a long term relationship, be titled as bf/gfs and eventually lead to marriage. I am 27, she is 24, whom just got out of a 7 year term relationship when i met her and scared of being in a relationship...
portcitykitty Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Hey, sorry to hear what you're going through, cuz I'm going through the exact same thing. I've been with my guy for almost a year come January, and he still hasn't met my parents. I haven't met his because they live several states away, so that's pretty understandable to me. But mine live here in town. Earlier in our relationship I mentioned to him that I'd like for him to meet my parents and he said "sure, yeah, I'll meet 'em"...but time has flown by and they still haven't met. I don't know if he's just scared or worried they won't like him (which I know they will like him, and I know he'd like them). But I also try to understand he is a very busy guy, with a lot going on in his life between both his jobs, and it's hard for him to find free time. My parents seem to understand that, too. But a year is quite a long time still....and it does feel kinda awkward. It's embarrassing when people ask if my parents have met him yet and I tell them "no"! We're both 33, too. We haven't even had the official talk about being bf/gf, we just assumed that's what we were, at least I assumed...lol We both have mentioned neither one of us are seeing anybody else. I refer to him as my bf...I've heard him once refer to me as his woman, or his girl! He also refers to me as "babe/baby", "dear", "hon/honey", and I refer to him the same, pretty much, so I've used those as hints that maybe we're actually bf/gf. We've never had to introduce each other before! We both seem to be heading in the long-term direction, despite certain areas that are still kinda gray. When we met, I was just coming out of a 4-year relationship with a guy, who I found out was married the whole time (his wife found his phone, called me and informed me! They also had 5 kids together!), so you'd think I would be afraid to be in a relationship, which I was a little hesitant for a while, wondering if this guy would pull the same stunt on me, but something told me he was different, so I gave him a shot. I also try to remember that we both agreed we'd take things slow in the beginning; he's had bad luck with women in the past, plus he has been married before. He may have some issues, and I'm trying to be understanding and patient, cuz I really really love this guy and want things to work out for us! I'm trying to be cool, you know?
Shygirl15 Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Has this happened to you guys/girls before when you date someone for over 6 months and isn't labled as gfs and bfs? I haven't met her family yet, its been 8 months already... i think this is a long time and is feeling ackward now that its not progressing. Kinda losing interest... I don't just want to date but to have a long term relationship, be titled as bf/gfs and eventually lead to marriage. I am 27, she is 24, whom just got out of a 7 year term relationship when i met her and scared of being in a relationship... Have you expressed your concern to her?
Author loveinlife Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 Hey, sorry to hear what you're going through, cuz I'm going through the exact same thing. I've been with my guy for almost a year come January, and he still hasn't met my parents. I haven't met his because they live several states away, so that's pretty understandable to me. But mine live here in town. Earlier in our relationship I mentioned to him that I'd like for him to meet my parents and he said "sure, yeah, I'll meet 'em"...but time has flown by and they still haven't met. I don't know if he's just scared or worried they won't like him (which I know they will like him, and I know he'd like them). But I also try to understand he is a very busy guy, with a lot going on in his life between both his jobs, and it's hard for him to find free time. My parents seem to understand that, too. But a year is quite a long time still....and it does feel kinda awkward. It's embarrassing when people ask if my parents have met him yet and I tell them "no"! We're both 33, too. We haven't even had the official talk about being bf/gf, we just assumed that's what we were, at least I assumed...lol We both have mentioned neither one of us are seeing anybody else. I refer to him as my bf...I've heard him once refer to me as his woman, or his girl! He also refers to me as "babe/baby", "dear", "hon/honey", and I refer to him the same, pretty much, so I've used those as hints that maybe we're actually bf/gf. We've never had to introduce each other before! We both seem to be heading in the long-term direction, despite certain areas that are still kinda gray. When we met, I was just coming out of a 4-year relationship with a guy, who I found out was married the whole time (his wife found his phone, called me and informed me! They also had 5 kids together!), so you'd think I would be afraid to be in a relationship, which I was a little hesitant for a while, wondering if this guy would pull the same stunt on me, but something told me he was different, so I gave him a shot. I also try to remember that we both agreed we'd take things slow in the beginning; he's had bad luck with women in the past, plus he has been married before. He may have some issues, and I'm trying to be understanding and patient, cuz I really really love this guy and want things to work out for us! I'm trying to be cool, you know? Hi Port, looks like we are going through a similar situation. I hope this works out for me and the girl too. Thanks for sharing your story. =) Have you expressed your concern to her? Yeah i have, she says not yet... her friend told me she is scared fo relationships because of her past. so maybe one day we'll be official?
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