mikejc Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Hi I recently realised teh relationship I am leaving was an addictive one and it accounts for some of my really horrid feeling emotions. Like an addict, despite bing dumped in a very cruel manner. Even though many times I promised myself to find teh strength and end it, I never did and even though she dumped me without wraning, in teh middle of our planning our future, and is with another guy, my addiction needs her back. Im desperate to return at any cost, and when i have attempted this i sense my emotions really overwhelming me, when I feel like it is gods will and best to let go, go cold turkey, they return to normall grief, sorrow etc. Problem is memories and futures in my mind are the good parts only, fanatasies and not the realities. Its hard to work with the truth from a perpsective of addiction. Is anyone else in or leaving an addictive relationship? Any good ideas?
LittleDove Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 I think you are describing either an abusive volotile relationship, or a co-dependant one, they leave you emotionally very confused. Take a real look at the reality of whats happening...is this addictive? I have just ended a very abusive and addictive relationship, where I kept coming back for more of his BS. It doesnt get any better, once you lower the standard of what you will put up with, people tend to loose respect... Boundaries are lost, and a sick cycle begins. Just leave it behind you, and grow from the experience. Live and learn. Find something else to get addicted to....NOT DRUGS...the gym, or something else...people are not supposed to be addictive, and when they are, its because theres a sickness in the relationship.
Author mikejc Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 yes, im jumping into exercise and actually now we are apart i feel healthier anyhow, as i am not wlaking on eggshells waiting for her to explode over somthing. Its all very raw now so I need to figur eout why I was not strong enough to end it , even when i wanted to. Lucky she finally did in soem ways, but im syill suffering during this transition/wakening. But i guess, as it was a co-dependant relationship, and im cold turkey, these things will pass.
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