adover Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Hi there, so basically me and my gf of 11months split up a week ago, and have gotten back together after talking things through over the past couple of days. We were really close when we were together before, with eachother almost every day etc, but we argued a lot. The main thing she's saying she wants now though is space! This seems very easy to take in the wrong way to me and I'm not overly sure what she does mean, does it mean she wants to see me less? Which would make me wonder if something else is going on?! I also used to stay around her house all the time and her family got on with me, but since getting back she hasnt told her family we've sorted things out and doesnt want me staying over!! What does this all mean? I'm confused as to where she's coming from!
BikerBeagle Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Sounds to me like you were smothering her and she wants you to back off a bit. Stop hanging out at her house "all the time", get your own life and do things you like to do outside of your relationship. Trust me, if you don't back off ...she'll back you off, permanently.
Author adover Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 Yeah but the thing is she always said she wanted me there! She always wanted me round and always wanted me to go out with her on evenings out?!
BikerBeagle Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 I'm not placing blame on you, it probably was just as much her fault as yours. All I'm saying is, it doesn't sound like she's saying that now ...now, she wants you to back off a bit. Does that bode well for your relationship? ...truthfully, probably not. In the majority of these cases I've seen, she's on her way out the door ...she wants to keep you in the picture so that she can 'wean' herself off of you slowly. Don't be surprised if, within a month or two, she doesn't want to "date other people" or something. Your BEST chance right now is to what I said, back off, make yourself unavailable sometimes, don't be at her beck and call everytime she wants to be 'entertained' ...give her a chance to miss you.
Author adover Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 Cheers for the reply again, so to me it just sounds like she's playing a game! As when we split up she was the one constantly texting me saying how much she missed me and still loved me, but the second i was back in she was clamouring for space!! So it sounds like she wants out and is playing a game, no wonder she didnt want to tell her family about us getting back together! Think it's time I looked out for number one a bit more and maybe kept myself open to new possibilities! It's a shame but I dont appreciate being played
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