how to proceed?? need guidance !

[my body is a cage]

hello everyone!

 

so, i am a sophomore in college right now (the dating scene is a little bit different in college). 2 weeks ago i hooked up with this guy i have had a crush on for a while. i have one class with him this semester, three classes with him next semester, same major, mutual friends, etc... the hookup went pretty well, we cuddled and were affectionate, and we exchanged numbers.

 

from what i can tell (and have heard) this guy is a REALLY nice / good guy. i didnt necessarily expect anything to come of it, but since then there have been a few promising events.

 

the wednesday after we hooked up, he unexpectedly showed up in my ta session (although hes in a different section) and sat next to me, we talked and joked, then he told me to call him if i was going out. i texted him before i went out to tell him i was, and he texted back right away to say he was going to this bar. i told him ok i will see you there.

 

i went to the bar, he wasnt there, but he texted me asking if i was there after i while. i told him i was, and he said he was going to come there even though he was at another bar. he did, but then it closed after like ten minutes. he got a ride back to campus (i dont blame him, it was like 20 degrees) and told me to go to his place. my friend and i walked back, and i texted him asking what was going on there, and he said nothing but come here, pretty much, but i responded after i got back to my place and said i was going to bed.

 

the next day i was supposed to have class with him but he wasnt there, so i texted him that evening saying that class was really bad (it was). he responded and asked a question about class, i responded and asked what he was doing later, he said he had frat stuff to do but would let me know when he went out.

 

he texted me later saying he never made it out and asking if i went to bed. i said yes and he said ok we shouldhang out soon. then he went away for the weekend.

 

the next time i saw him was in class on tuesday. i saw him looking over a few times during class, and we talked a little bit afterwards but taht was it. now its break!

 

my question is, based on this, do you guys think he is interested? what do you think my next move should be?

 

i have a tendency to be cold and overly distant and push guys away when i like them out of fear of being rejected. im trying to not do that here, but at the same time i dont want to be overly eager.

 

do you think i should text him happy thanksgiving? poke him on facebook? or just lay low and let him come to me?

 

thanks everyone!

[my body is a cage]

anyone? i dont want to seem too interested, yet not too uninterested

[prettybaby]

That guy's sure hard to get a hold of. I wouldn't do anything. Just let him contact you.

[SoulSearch_CO]

I dunno - I would've texted "Happy Thanksgiving." It's uninvolved, but still shows you were thinking about him. Ah, well. I guess at this point now, I'd leave it to him.

[my body is a cage]

thanks for your responses. so you guys think that based on this he doesnt seem that interested?

 

i guess its too late for a happy thanksgiving text. poke on facebook? yes/no? (idk if you guys even use facebook haha)

[Green]

If you have a tendancy to be cold and distant then try hard to activly do the oposite and txt him with something like "I like spending time with you, when are we hanging out again?"