Brady_to_Moss Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Is there any right way to do it? Or is it to just get close and lean in fast and kiss her? Does it depend on how many dates?
SelfCentered Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 It totally depends on the person in question my friend and how well the date went. Everytime I've kissed a girl for the first time, whether on a date or just getting caught in a moment, it has always felt right and natural. So my best advice would be to not plan/expect it and to just go with the flow.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 It has nothing to do with how many dates. The determining factor is the level of physical chemistry between the two of you. If the two of you have exchanged a few little touches here and there during the date, that's a very good sign, as long as some of them were initiated by her. If it's the end of the date and you're hugging goodnight, I'd suggest that you complete the hug and pull back a bit so you can see her face. Look her in the eyes a second or two longer than seems comfortable. Don't break eye contact before she does. If she breaks the eye contact and turns away, or moves away, forget it. But if she smiles, or blushes, or looks down -- rather than to the side -- those are all very good indicators. Asking for permission before kissing her will seem kind of tentative and wimpy. What I've done in the past -- assuming the above groundwork is there -- is to make it more of an "announcement". On one date several years ago, all the above groundwork had been done. We had eye contact going. I said, "I'm finding it really hard to not kiss you right now." I can't remember her exact response, but it was clear she'd like that. I leaned in and kissed her lightly, closed mouth, no tongue. Pulled back a bit, leaned in and did the same thing again. Her response? "Wow." With the whole physical chemistry thing, you'll know whether or not it's there. And if it is, you've gotten over the first hurdle. All the best with it... I've got date #2 with a woman tomorrow night. We'll see if my own advice holds true.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 This girl i am going to take out to dinner next week is a touchy girl. Will always touch you on the leg or hold your arm for a second. I can tell very sexual. Is this a good thing for a first time kiss?
belladonna Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 reservoirdog1 - that's funny because that's exactly what my current boyfriend said to me the first time we kissed. Worked on me like a charm haha To the OP - I say go for it..if she's touchy she'll probably be into kissing.
Perry Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 To make you feel more at ease, when you meet her give her a big, warm hug, followed quickly with a warm kiss on her cheek. Maybe that will help, prepare you for the big lip moment at the end of the date? And who says it has to be at the end of the date, either? Perry TheList.FM
reservoirdog1 Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 I agree with bella... touchy-feely probably = open to kissing. Definitely worth risking, at any rate. Bella -- glad to hear that approach worked so well on you! Perhaps I'll try it tomorrow night on date #2.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 SO it all really depends on chemistry and how the dates going? It could happen on date 1 or date 2.....Does it happen more often the first date?
reservoirdog1 Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 By definition, it's probably more likely to happen on a second date than on a first. If she's agreed to a second date, you already know she likes you and can see some romantic potential in you. If you're only on the first date, you don't know if she sees that yet, and besides, she hardly knows you. But, I doubt there are any statistics on this. I've had a number of first dates that involved kissing. In my opinion and experience, if you don't get a proper kiss by the end of the second date (i.e. not necessarily full-on tonsil hockey, but something more than a peck on the cheek), you should reassess whether or not it's worth pursuing further. Don't overthink it too much while you're on the date, though. If the chemistry's there, it shouldn't be that hard to detect.
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