prismfaerie Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 It's said that a man doesn't need to be loved as much as he needs to be respected. Frankly, I can't love a man I don't respect. Have any of you ever gone through a period where you've lost a sense of respect for your partner...and were you ever able to get it back?
Mino Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 no...once the respect is gone so is the love, imo.. It actually gets to a point, for me anyway, that I cant even look at him. end of relationship
Jersey Shortie Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 It's said that a man doesn't need to be loved as much as he needs to be respected. Frankly, I can't love a man I don't respect. Have any of you ever gone through a period where you've lost a sense of respect for your partner...and were you ever able to get it back? It's not that men don't need t obe loved as much as they need to be respected. They rightly know that if his woman doesn't respecte him, she isn't going to love him. For them, respect and love go hand and hand. Which I don't think is true for women. We can still love, even when we aren't respected. If you lost respect for your partner, yes I think you can get it back depending on their actions and yours. It just might take time. All relationships have ups and downs. We don't always 100% respect our partner like we should.
MiniMina Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 In my experience, respect is tied into so many other things. For example in a previous relationship of mine I completely lost respect for my partner after he cheated on me. We never did recover after the loss of trust/respect and eventually broke up. So in that case it wasn't possible for me to respect him again, even though I tried for months. I think respect if often based in personality traits like loyalty, caring, faith, etc... If those personality traits that you respect suddenly disappear it's incredibly difficult to get them back.
LittleDove Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 I lost respect for my X after a betrayal. I never found it again. Once respect is lost- the love is different. Its changed. Notice hes my X... YES some couples CAN recover, it takes time and alot of hard work, re-gaining respect is not an easy thing to do. IME respect ties in with love, trust, boundaries, and all things that make up a healthy relationship... so if its gone....its pretty much over.
RecordProducer Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Frankly, I can't love a man I don't respect. I can still love a man for whom I have lost respect. Sad, but true. What can one do?
norajane Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 It's not that men don't need t obe loved as much as they need to be respected. They rightly know that if his woman doesn't respecte him, she isn't going to love him. For them, respect and love go hand and hand. Which I don't think is true for women. We can still love, even when we aren't respected. But can a man love a woman even if he doesn't respect her? Can he be in love with her? I can love a man I don't respect, but I can't be in love with him. If he loses my respect, I fall out of love with him, and that never returns unless he earns back my respect in some way, which, I think, would be very difficult.
Jersey Shortie Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 I don't know Nora..that's a question for the guys.
Confused4Now Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Love is Respect and respect is love period...
Reggie Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 I cannot love someone I do not respect. After my divorce I dated. I got preety close to a couple of women. When I found that both had been OW's at one time, my feelings for them changed. I knew they were untrustworty(they justified it) and I simply could not look at them the same way. I don't think I would have felt the same way had they owned thier issues and had worked on them.
Geishawhelk Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Love is Respect and respect is love period... Well, if I could break it down here, and indicate something I learned whilst working with a counselling organisation.... Picture a dish on top of a tripod, in a science lab. Bunsen burner.... The dish is the relationship, and all it holds is the chemistry of the union.... The bunsen burner is the passion. But the most important piece of equipment, is the tripod. This is: Trust Communication and Respect. Take one of those legs away, and the lot collapses.
moonmosaic Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Yes, only if the person changes his/her ways, both attitude and behavior, towards you or visa versa. In a friendship or relationship we tend to respect those who are considerate of our needs. I have also found that if you can find ways to meet those needs not fulfilled by your partner, you can still maintain respect. Well this is, of course easier said than done and although we can have lots of friends we aren't supposed to have several partners to meet all of our needs. The longer you stay in a relationship that doesn't meet your needs, the more likely for resentment to build up and for disrespect to develop.
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