Posco_Proudfoot Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I was recently in a long term relationship of about 2 years. We even had plans of getting married, but at the beginning of November that went out the window. We both had two homes and spent almost all summer fixing hers up to sell. Here is the issue. She is a major pack rat, seems to spend money on worthless things, and came with 3 big dogs. I already had 2 dogs myself. With all her stuff I decided to get a storage building to cover her extra "stuff". I also was paying for additional things to keep her house up while it was on the market, and I felt I was paying to feed all these dogs. Between all of this I started getting cold feet and complaining of all my added expense, all the pack rat ways, the big dogs constantly in the house, etc. etc. . She felt I was nitpicking expense. We really got into it and she decided to move back to her unsold house. So, for the last month she has moved all her stuff back including the 3/4 of what was in storage was her. I made over 2x what she did and had no problems with some of the expense, but it had gotten out of control and I was not getting any help at all. She never talked about until she moved out. Now she complains about being broke. I got to her house and I see new items she bought. Is it me or were we just completely incompatiable? It's hard for me to believe that the relationship ended on such petty things, but she seems to think I had become controlling.
Geishawhelk Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 No, I think you're right. This is a big deal, and it's not going to get better unless she faces her issues and realises it's a problem. I hate to say it but for my part I think you did a wise thing. If she's broke, she has nobody to blame but herself. Cruel as it may sound - leave her to it.
Author Posco_Proudfoot Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 You'd think that she would not want to contact me after moving out, yet she continues doing it and dragging out moving her stuff piecemeal. I ended up moving most of it myself to stop the insanity. I can't even figure why she would continue contacting me if she didn't want to see me. I finally told her all the stuff was moved. She then started discussing certain items I had at her house and then giving the engagement ring back. It's like a bad soap opera !
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