Surfer Dude Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 It's funny how our significant others say some really sweet things in relationship, only to say completely opposite things after breakup. Here's a few: Before, while hugging me: Darling, this is my place forever ok? No girl can ever be in your arms. This is where I belong, it's my place, ok? After: You should sleep with girls more, it'll be easier for you to forget me. Before: Oh don't worry about that guy, he's just a friend. I would never consider him anything more. After: OMG, he's just soooo perfect. Before: You are so perfect darling. I'm so happy that you came into my life. I want to grow old with you together. After: I despise you, you are pathetic. You should stop thinking about me already. Before: I love you After: I don't love you Before: can't help feeling this! I love you more than anything. you are everything to me.. i can be who i am when im with you. stay forever with me, darling. After: I'm not happy you're in my life. Move on and forget me, talking to you doesn't make me happy at all. Before: i would rather die than live without you After: I can live without you. Before: I love you so much..and I am 100 % sure that you are and will be the only one that I love After: I'm in love with my boyfriend and I'm having sex with him. What's wrong with that??? Before: unless you ask me to go away, I will be there to make you happy all your life After: I don't want to be with you, I don't love you. I have a boyfriend and I'm happy with him. It's unbelievable how people change. Maybe they don't change, maybe they just put on a different mask and a different show in accordance with their feelings. Despicable. I can take a lot of things... but making strong promises like this and breaching them later is just horrible. No wonder my breakup was so difficult, after hearing all those sweet things it was impossible for me to just move on and forget her. Lying bitch.
Gere51 Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Try having your ex tell you two hours before she broke it off how much she loved you and how happy she was. Same for me; just two weeks before that she told me it was impossible for a another woman to love a man as much as she did me, and that she had no clue she could love someone so much. Go figure.
frd150 Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Sounds familiar... Justification for their actions. When in doubt hey will say things until it becomes reality. They meaning the dumpers,men or women.
spupwc Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 same here, I was told all that too plus that I was "IT" not to long before she betrayed me. Go figure... 2 faced b****!!!! with horns!!!!!
4by4 Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Haha I love this thread. My ex also said I was her number 1 and she loved me deeply only a week before breaking up. There was a time in my relationship she had suicidal thoughts because I wasn't happy in the relationship. Now she doesn't even need me in her life.
EmperorR Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 When she was going away for 2 weeks this is what she told me before PLease don't cheat, i love you so much your my everything, please don't talk to any girls after I have to tell you something I cheated on you before - Please remember me always, even if I die don't remarry someone just remember me after Forget about us, its in the past Before - I'm sorry but you have to give up all your female friends because I'm jealous After Just leave me alone go reconnect with your female friends Before your the nicest sweetest guy ever, every other guy has treated me like sh*T after i just met the nicest sweetest guy at school he saved me a seat:rolleyes: before when i was contemplating dumping her my ex cut herself I'll die without you and shows me the marks on her wrist after I dont need you anymore , I have butterflies for someone else Before I love you more than you love me after I dont love you any more words are a croak of sh*t, no wonder my parents who have been married for 30 odd years barely say I love you, yet my ex was splurting it out all the time
Author Surfer Dude Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 I hope this is a lesson to all. I've realized that everyone says sweet things when they're with someone. But those things don't necessarily mean anything. It's best to observe partner's emotions, behavior and try to read their feelings through their actions. Words are so worthless and meaningless. No wonder people had to invent the concept of contract, since it's pretty obvious how fragile and temporary words can be.
alwayssme Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 this thread is so true! it is crazy how much people can change. i thought my ex could NEVER EVER possibly leave me (as much as he SHOWED and said he was in love with me) Now he doesn't even want me around. Its sad...very sad... Maybe someday they will be in our shoes and only then will they realize the BS they put us through....
alwayssme Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 yeah my ex used to cry so many times when we would argue and break up for a day or so, and text me, call me...of course i never ignored him like hes doin to me now...and once he actually said he tried to kill himself but when i told him i cant live without him...he....omg i dont even wanna think about this anymore.........the past is so different from the present
4by4 Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Human Psychology is just amazing. When I treated my ex badly she was always trying to win me over and kept telling me how much the relationship meant to her. After 1.5 years of letting her win the small arguments and always trying to be the bigger man, be the nice guy.. she has completely lost interest. I suppose to her I was no logner a challenge. She knew she could have me no matter what she did and that screwed up our relationship. Let that be a lesson learnt. Never wear the pants in a relationship, just don't take their crap and don't put all your trust and hope in someone else. Simply been the best gf/bf isn't enough. It's a game you have to play whether you like it or not. I realised that after 4 years with her. You end up hurting and feel cheated because they make all the promises, yet they are useless in keeping them. I consider it a hurtful lesson but one I will remember never to make again.
TeaAbraham Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 After my ex and I split there was a time where she was "still considering me," and I thought there was still a chance that she would come back to me. Here's some stuff she told me just between the split and two weeks later when she tells me "I can only see us being friends": - I was searching for a room-mate, and I get a call from this girl saying: "Hey, I saw your ad! Everything you describe about yourself sounds just like me! I'm basically you, except female!" I tell my ex this, and she gets sad/upset and says "but that's ME =-( I am you except female." And she even says this just a few days after she told me "with you, we have to be the same person, but with [her ex] I can be my own person" Crock o Sh*t - "I want you, more than anything." - She would say my name, over and over again. Yearningly. Lying B*tch is right. I don't even want to think about what she told me while we were still together.
UnamedSeven Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Same here, Tea. It hurts too much to look back on what really was. To recal her voice and depict certain words that she said Before- (name) we will be together until the end of life. We aren't going to let the Summer separate us in ANY way. After- I'm annoyed that you insist on being friends.
Author Surfer Dude Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 Words can convey incredible BS and make us believe it too. Some people wonder why their partner never says "I love you". Because it means sh*t and they know it! Any fool can say "I love you" and do completely opposite things the next moment. Actions convey true feelings, it doesn't really matter what people say. In the last month before breakup, my ex would say all sorts of nice things to me, and yet she would act extremely agitated and depressed in my presence, would start arguments over some small insignificant things etc. If someone really loves you, they might say it, but they will support such statement with their actions. Don't be fooled, words mean nothing.
UnamedSeven Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 Words can convey incredible BS and make us believe it too. Some people wonder why their partner never says "I love you". Because it means sh*t and they know it! Any fool can say "I love you" and do completely opposite things the next moment. Actions convey true feelings, it doesn't really matter what people say. In the last month before breakup, my ex would say all sorts of nice things to me, and yet she would act extremely agitated and depressed in my presence, would start arguments over some small insignificant things etc. If someone really loves you, they might say it, but they will support such statement with their actions. Don't be fooled, words mean nothing. Yeah... I agree. Plus, some people may feel really strongly about the person they 'love', and they say that they never loved you in the first place... Honestly, i think that hurts the most.
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