BlueDog Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I've been lurking around, but did post explaining my situation about six weeks ago: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t168010/ Basically, my ex split up with me after five years, then started sending very mixed messages, saying that he wanted me back but also starting to date someone else. This was all made more complicated by the fact that he has been working out of town on a succession of different jobs since the beginning of August (he is in entertainment and sometimes has to tour). I got some good advice from people here and have been trying very hard to do the NC thing, and succeeding some of the time. When I failed and was in contact, the situation continued pretty much exactly as described in my previous post. But I was starting to get some of my confidence back. I still love and miss him, but life without him was starting to look more feasible. This weekend he finally got back and has no more out of town jobs scheduled until next March. He texted me on Sunday saying how much he missed me and that he was thinking of me a lot. I managed not to respond for a couple of days, but had a weak moment yesterday and rang him, saying that I wasn't prepared to talk to him and didn't want to hear him say he missed me when he is dating someone else (yes I didn't need to ring him to say that, I was being weak and just wanting to hear his voice, you all know what it's like). He said he understood. He then rang me this evening to say that he has broken things off with her, and hopes this will help me feel better about being in contact with him because he doesn't want to be out of contact. He said that the relationship with her was never very serious anyway and he didn't see her much as he was away most of the time. I am so torn about whether or not to give him another chance. I have been through so much pain over this and want to protect myself. But I do love him and this is the man I always thought I was going to marry. I don't know what to do. Any insight would be so so welcome.
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