wisebutnotperfect Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 well.. it's been a year and 1/2 since my divorce was final.. married life was difficult most of the time for the 8 years previous to that and i am still grieving. not in a hard, crying type of grief, more of a thought process that leads me back to the good times. i think i mostly grieve the loss of the interconnected family that i really wanted to be my life. i think that the best thing that i am as a person is my role as a father. i really miss evenings at home with my family together. i hate the fact that i am not involved as much , timewise, with my son as i could have been if we were still all together. i'm not sure about dating although i crave the connection that comes with commitment. i've been down the "commited relationship" road twice now with the end result being divorce and heartache. i'm sure that i'm just scared to be hurt again yet, i long to be close to someone. if someone out there wants to give me some feedback feel free!
Surfer Dude Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I've never been married or had children, but I completely understand how you feel. When bonds are broken (familial, romantic, friendly) it always comes as a huge shock and it's difficult to deal with that. I'm really sorry this has happened to you. Why don't you seek out a nice lady to spend time with and see how it goes from there? Maybe you don't need to get serious immediately, just create a connection with someone and watch it grow and develop, without any expectations. Don't rush into anything, take your time and try to enjoy the process of bonding with someone instead of looking for a mate per se.
fabulousgal Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 I agree with surfer. You can still be an awesome dad, despite your new "logistics." Never think differently. I am sorry you haven't been lucky in love, but I don't for a minute think that is your destiny. You should get your sense of self in tip-top shape, and than slowly look around and invite the company of a lady in. Go slow, and it may take more than one test drive..... Good Luck!
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