Peyton Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Okay so I recently just got one of these and I'm not sure I'm doing this right but here it goes: I know as a girl in high school, I might not know the true meaning of love. But my boyfriend and I have been on and off for the past 2 years, and it's been a rollercoaster but I'd never go through it for anyone else. He knows how to be an ass and sometimes he does it just because he can. But hey, I do it too. I lost my virginity to him so he obviously will always have a special place in my heart. But anyway on to my mom. My mom used to love my boyfriend for about the first year and a half until me and him started fighting all the time and she saw me crying a lot. And now, she hates the fact that we're back together and trying to push through things to get back to normal. She says she'd never ban me from seeing him, but that she doesn't trust him and I'm not even allowed at his house and he's not even allowed to drive me places anymore. He's only allowed at my house and that's it. But my mom doesn't understand that he's not as bad as she thinks, she just hears about the bad things. I can't make her believe that he really does care about me and would do anything for me. So he feels bad because he knows that she hates him and he can't do anything to get her trust back. I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend to death, he's like my bestfriend. But I can't get my mom to see that. And she's the one holding us back.
zhsoj Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Holding you back from what? You're in highschool... It sounds like she has reason to not completely trust him or frankly you (this is a good thing, it means she cares). If you want this to change then you will need to convince her that not only will he not hurt you (e.g. driving irresponsibly, exposing you to disease, etc...), but you will also need to convince her that you are capable of fending for yourself; which means that if he does something stupid, she will feel confident that you won't go along with it. We all go through it. Perhaps you and your boyfriend should cool it for a bit. Or at least tone it down a bit. Don't take your mom for granted. Soon you will realize just how human she is, and what that entails.
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