Author officegirl Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 It's possible that he thought that. I really think I was a bit of a brat about all of this. He should be more willing to please me, but if I don't act displeased for the most part, he probably thinks things are fine. I need to step up my game here and let him know what I want.
Walk Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Sex life with my ex was like that. He'd always come, and relatively quickly, and leave me hanging. Most times I was fine cuddling, but Gesh, sometimes you just want to come! And the frustration of it all was horrible. It seemed so selfish on his part. Ugh. I hated it. Got to the point I never wanted to have sex with him because it was a ton of effort for nothing. Worse then nothing because I felt more distant from him afterward then I did prior to. Anyway.. new relationship. My H makes sure I come first. Then we focus on him. But I suggest you talk to him (prior to sex) about making sure that you have an orgasm unless you specifically tell him you don't want one. Make sure you impress upon him how it affects you. This will be a deal breaker in the long run. Please, please, don't take this lightly. You'll get so fed up with him that you'll be tossing victoria secret catelogs at him and telling him to go use the bathroom for the 2 minutes it takes him so you can get some sleep that night. I can't express the levels of frustration that built up from dealing with this type of situation. Nip it in the bud. Talk to him, and don't gloss this over as a 'nothing'. You're right. He's being a lazy selfish dork. Pull his head out of his butt for him before he loses you.
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