rececup Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Hi, I had a good relationship with a man that i met over 4 years ago, We met first, starting off as a business, (he paid me for sex) but as time went on feelings started getting involved as time went on. We spent time together, he told me that he loves me and i replied and at first i wasn't sure but gradually i started to fall in love. not to long ago i got pregnant and we both decided that it wasn't a good idea to have the child because i already have 2 and i live with my parents and he is not stabled at the time he is also living with his mother and she currently gets high. He also told me alot about his past. He did not have a childhood. He told me he has issues with women and that he use to date alot of prostitutes, dancers and drug addicts. He also stated that he took anger management that he did not finish following through. He paid for my abortion and he was there for me through the whole thing but after that he told me that he loves me and that when we both get our lives together we would come as one and start a family. He hasn't called me since it has been a week. I've tried calling him but he refuses to awnser my call we live about 45 min driving distance from each other he use to come and see me i had a friend call him from another # he awnsered but we hung up i am really hurt and i feel rejected. Does any body no why this is happening????? ps, He also has a 2 year old and he has had a previous abusive relationship with his baby mother and he went as far as asking me to come to court with him to press charges against her because she was stalking him and we were inside of his car she followed us and hit us from behind 3 times from the back but i told him that i did not want to get involved.....
casanovacorner Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 You might not want to hear this, but most guys don't want to marry a prostitute. They just want to pretend that they care about you or that you care about them. If he was indeed serious and ran it by a friend, I'm sure his friend brought him back to reality by telling him, "she's a prostitute" or something along those lines. The pregnancy was probably a reality check that he got a prostitute pregnant and he came to his senses and said, "I dodged a bullet there." I know because I met a girl that I was paying for sex, and she caught feelings, and I soon cut her off. Prostitutes aren't high on a guy's list of marriage material.
Author rececup Posted November 28, 2008 Author Posted November 28, 2008 Yes, I know where your coming from but I am really not from the streets I am a smart intelligent educated woman i just made mistakes in my life I was seriously hooked to alchol and drugs and I come from a good family I just was a stubborn not wanting to listen person but i am a better person today he even his self asked me why was i attracted to him and i replied that i liked what i see when i see him. At the beginning of our relationship I had no feelings at all, it was just business but he kept putting his all in all into me giving me money without having to have sex with him, telling me that he saw great potential in me and he stated that i did not belong in the streets. e told me to listen and get my life together and that is not the reason why i got myself together i wanted good for myself I did not fit in that lifestlyle alot of people where jealous of me.. They saw me go from riches to rags before and from rag to riches this has been a process that i have been battling for some years . I am proud of myself today, I love myself and my family dearly and i am going to use my will power to over come the things that i have been through. I am going to stay focused but i do appreciate your advice so from what i have told you how do u feel now?
casanovacorner Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 You may be a great girl, but the only way to really know why he stopped calling, is to ask him whenever you get a chance.
Angel1111 Posted November 29, 2008 Posted November 29, 2008 I'm not sure what you were thinking by not protecting yourself from getting pregnant. And why would he believe this was his child, anyway? I'm sure you're a good person but men tend to not respect women they pay to have sex with. They will also often question the values of a woman who will have an abortion. And all that aside, these things are an attack on your personal values and conscience. The more you chip away at them, the more harm you do to yourself. I hope you'll find a way to remove yourself from this way of life and I hope you never put yourself in a position to have an abortion again.
Author rececup Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 You may be a great girl, but the only way to really know why he stopped calling, is to ask him whenever you get a chance. I want to say you are absoutley right if there is a next time to speak with this man again but for right now i am healing spiritually and emotionally and maybe it is best that i take this as a learning experience and move on and I will make sure i will not make this mistake again.
Author rececup Posted November 29, 2008 Author Posted November 29, 2008 I'm not sure what you were thinking by not protecting yourself from getting pregnant. And why would he believe this was his child, anyway? I'm sure you're a good person but men tend to not respect women they pay to have sex with. They will also often question the values of a woman who will have an abortion. And all that aside, these things are an attack on your personal values and conscience. The more you chip away at them, the more harm you do to yourself. I hope you'll find a way to remove yourself from this way of life and I hope you never put yourself in a position to have an abortion again. Thanx for your opinion, I will never put myself and I mean neverrrrrrrrrrrr! put myself in this position ever again.... I want respect and in order to get respect i have to respect myself......
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