windows Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I've been reading around and I've noticed alot of people just saying to go out with as many people as you can. Now I may be a minority but how many people in this world are picky? (Or very selective?) And does that have any benefits/disadvantages? Or what does it mean to be 'picky'? I just want to clarify if I'm 'picky'.
SushiX Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I've been reading around and I've noticed alot of people just saying to go out with as many people as you can. Now I may be a minority but how many people in this world are picky? (Or very selective?) And does that have any benefits/disadvantages? Or what does it mean to be 'picky'? I just want to clarify if I'm 'picky'. Everyone is a little picky. Well we have to be. That's just our preference. It mostly has to do with looks. Some are more picky than others. I mean I wouldnt go out with someone 50lbs heavier than me. Maybe if she has a pretty face/personality and willing to lose that weight then I probably give her a chance. I'm only picky up to a certain point. I no supermodel so I can't be that picky! For me as long as they in the 7/10 on looks department then its all good.
lazlow99 Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I'm very picky. I'm picky with friends and pretty much everything though, I'm a bit of a perfectionist. I think its to do with my personality more than anything. If someone is average looking with an amazing personality I'd probably go for them over someone who is stunning but a total moron though.
Lizzie60 Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I am very picky.. nice teeth are a priority.. personal hygiene.. they have to be fit and attractive.. and clean.
alphamale Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Now I may be a minority but how many people in this world are picky? (Or very selective?) the more one has to offer the more picky they can afford to be...people know this inherently
D-Jam Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I think it's ok to be picky...provided you still have a good range of results in terms of "possible mates". Biggest problem with people who are picky is that they write off way too many of the possible mates out there, and thus end up alone wondering where all the "good men" or "good women" are. I'm picky in a few matters, but not in a lot. With women it's either I'll be into her or I won't.
berrieh Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I'm very picky, but I figure... I'm kind of a catch. (Not to be arrogant, but I'm thin, fit, classically pretty, smart, educated, with a good job, great friends, and a great life I'm enjoying.) That said, I'm not entirely picky in a "shallow" way; yes, they have to be attractive -- to me -- but I've dated guys who my friends were skeptical of their "cuteness level" and not cared because I liked them. I also don't consider money at all, except in the case of crushing debt or a lack of ambition. (I'm too old to date the guy who still thinks he's gonna somehow get a record deal at 30 when he's clearly no good, etc, and I have pretty much no debt, so I'd like to not get swallowed whole by my partner's debt when I do settle down.) But it's a rare guy who I'm attracted to AND who makes me laugh AND who's really smart, and those are the things I'm picky about. I go out with a lot of guys, but I really don't dig about 80% of the guys I give a shot. I don't sleep with them or show any signs of seriousness, but a few dates never hurt anyone; I have made some friends and even matched a friend up with a guy I went on a few dates with (they're engaged just recently!). So, I think you can go out with as many people as you can AND be picky. I didn't used to date guys unless I thought I'd REALLY like them, but I was both missing out on great people and putting too much pressure on the dates I was going on. So, this works better IMO.
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 The longer your list of requirements aka pickiness, the smaller the dating pool. If you're okay with this, then it's all good. If you bellyache about it all the time, then it's time to reduce your list of requirements, particularly and especially if you can't bring the same or equal elements to the table. For example, once in awhile I'll fall in love with a pair of shoes or a purse, which goes with...nothing...in my wardrobe. So, I have to shop 'til I drop, to find something to go with it. Sometimes I never do, so the shoes or purse never gets worn/used. Sometimes years later, I happen on an outfit that's a perfect match. I honestly don't mind being patient or continuing to look. Shopping can be fun!
prettybaby Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 We're all picky to a certain extend. We all have a list of things we look for in a partner. Depending on the person, we'll generally skip one or two points if the rest of the package is worth it lol
Habibti Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 I think there's nothing wrong with being picky; that being said I do think there's a problem with what the majority are being picky about vs. what they SHOULD be picky about. You should be attracted to someone, leave it at that- when you go into..their hair needs to be this, their height/wt/teeth need to be that..Instead of being picky about oh I don't know..their morals, their charachters, wether or not you're compatible to begin with. Looks are going to fade, I can understand wanting to date someone who looks this way or that way but you're setting yourself up for dissapointment. People should be more particular about wether they are dating someone stable, streetsmart, etc. But instead it's almost always being picky about looks and everything YOU SHOULD be selective about takes a back burner.
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