Sephorelle Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Hello! I've come on here for some advice on a break-up that has pretty much destroyed my life for the past year. I apologize for the novel I am about to write... I met my ex when I was 15 (now 21) and he was 20. We spent 4 1/2 happy years together. He was my best friend, we did everything together, and had a bond like nothing else. We had our lives pretty much all figured out. His friend offered him a job in another city that would offer him a lot of money. The both of us wanted to get a place together so we thought this would be a good thing. The plan was for him to be gone for 10 months. After his first few weeks he started getting distant, and would rarely contact me. He blamed this on long work hours and no cell reception due to working in fields. It was really tough, but our visits went well, but communication was hard, although he remained his sweet self for the most part. When he came home for visits, he refused to bring his cell back with him, and said it was so he could have a break, and if people wanted to contact him, they could call my phone. I started seeing questionable pictures on the internet of him with other girls, and any time I called him on it, he would insist that was just how everyone was out there, and that I wouldn't understand. A couple months before he was to come home, I threw him a surprise party, thinking he would be so happy to see all his friends. He was not happy that I threw it, and treated me like garbage in front of all of our friends. I could tell his heart wasn't really in it at this point...the rest of the trip was spent contemplating our relationship. We decided to keep going. A couple weeks later after he went back, I saw more pictures, and called him. He flipped out on me and said that this wasn't going to work for him anymore...I left it at that, I was so tired with being treated poorly...our best friends we're getting married that next month and we were both in the wedding party. I knew it wasn't over, even thought he texted me the night before the wedding saying althought it will be hard, we should keep our feelings aside, so we don't take away from their special day. I tried my very best to ignore him, and I'm sure him me, but eventually we started talking, and by the end of the night it was like nothing ever happened. He proclaimed that he made the biggest mistake and that he was going to come home and everything would be okay. The following morning, he said he was unsure of what he was going to do as he made lots of promises to people out there, and that it would be hard. He also started crying but wouldn't tell me why...he's not a crier. I thought maybe it was out of guilt if he had someone out there. At this time he had a house with this girl and some guys from the pictures, but they were just friends. He refused to see me for the rest of his visit because he did not want to "lead me on if he wasn't going to come home, but he was going to try his best." I didn't believe him, and so I started making a new life for myself. He texted me almost everyday saying he was working on it, but never once picked up the phone. He finally gave me a date, and althought he pushed it back several times due to car problems he was on his way. I had found pictures of him with this same girl that were completly unacceptable for anyone, so while he was on his drive home, I called him. He was livid with me and suggested I not be there when he arrived. I wanted to see him badly, so I went there and apologized for getting upset about the pictures, and said all that mattered was that he was home now. He didn't treat me all that well when he got home, and I was getting a little fed up. He refused to have his cell around me, and if he needed to call or text someone he would go into the bathroom or somewhere that I couldn't see him. He had developed all these strange new habbits that werent like him. After several arguments, he didn't call me for 3 days, so I called to see what the deal was. He was very rude to me, and told me that this just wasn't going to work for him, (he was home for 1.5 weeks at this point) and that he got a promotion and was moving back. A couple days before he was to go back, he sent me several texts saying how sorry he was, and how scared he was that he is losing hold of what's important to him. And how he's never been so crazy over a girl before...I didn't write much back and that was the last time we spoke. Three days after he got back home him and this girl from the pictures were official. She had a child and they had a house and are still together to this day. I haven't had one word with him in a year which brings me to my question now...He is home for a visit and I thought, why not add him to facebook, so, he accepted me, but 8 hours later he removed me as a friend, and blocked me on MSN with a name that said, if the grass is greener on the other side, then hop the fence and f*ck right off. Do any of you have an idea as to why he accepted me, then removed me and also put that comment up? Do you think it was pointed at our situation.. Any insight on the whole situation would be greatly appreciated...and thank you for reading all the way through.
Author Sephorelle Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 I don't know if I should also add that he deleted the note that said I ever added him.
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