serenitylies Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 From my other posts, you should know that me and my ex have been broken up for about 2 months or so. He started seeing someone after a week of the breakup and we have been friends with special benefits and things are getting difficult. He comes over and sleeps over at times and things happen, but then at certain times when he says he will come over, he doesnt and goes hang out with her. The other girl doesnt know that he comes over and we do things. Our friends dont know, except for one. This friend is a friend of both me and my ex, and even tho he is my ex's best friend, he is on my side about what I should do. He believes I deserve better then what my ex has ever given me. And I believe that too. But when I hold someone else's hand, it doesnt feel like it should be. When I kiss someone else, their lips arent as warm and comforting. When my ex comes over, and he kisses me, it feels so right. Sometimes I feel like we belong together, that we're destined but the things that he does makes me think otherwise. I work now, and I get paid pretty good so I have money in my pockets. I told him, if he needs anything, he can tell me. Ill try my best to get it for him if I have the money and if I think its important, then Ill go get it. When hes with me, I feel like we're destined for each other. But when he isnt, I feel like we're supposed to break up and find other people. But my heart doesnt accept that we're not supposed to be together. When he's over at his sister's house, he sees that his sister and her boyfriend act the same way that we used to. And he tells me that he can see us as adults with kids acting the same way. And I miss that...I dont know if I really should miss it...
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Are you happy sharing him? I suspect he's happy with two women, don't you think?
Geishawhelk Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Serenity, I doubt he's writing on relationship boards, concerned about the state of his life. If he did, he'd be writing to celebrate, or even gloat and lord it over other guys, boasting that he has two ladies on the go, and theyre both eating out of his hand. I think if it bothers you, you need to ditch him fast. if you don't mind that he's treating this other girl so disrespectfully - as are you - then keep on balling and live with it. He's lying to her and leading her on. And you're playing into that.
Twinkling Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 You will probably get hurt in the long run if you continue to do what you are doing. You guys broke up and and it wasn't working, even though you obviously have feelings towards him- or at least what you guys used to have. Sounds like he is having his cake and eating it too- being a single man (possibly dating others) but still getting that same comfort of being in your arms. He isn't losing anything and you're not letting him. Personally, I have been in this bind when my boyfriend of 5 1/2 years broke up with me about 4 months ago. He started seeing someone almost right after (rebound or not, I don't know) but still was getting cozy with me. I let it happen because it gave me comfort that I wasn't completely losing him. But in the end, I wound up hurt and confused. Break away for a while and heal yourself first.
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