Can't be just friends with ex anymore

[sj9ers]

So me and my ex met at work at our lifeguard job over the summer and we were together for two months. She was happy for the most part it seemed, but told our mutual friends she was always use to dating jerks and players and wasn't use to dating a guy like me someone who would always try to make her happy. Well the last time I saw her before the breakup she was fine, but then a week later she dumped me which was September 7th. Before we broke up she told one of my friends who told me that she really wasn't sure if she wanted to break up with me or if she wanted me as a bf or friend and that she still liked me but was getting kind of bored with things and wanted to keep me as a friend because something might develop later. Well after she dumped me she told me not to call or text her and that she would call me when she was ready. Well after a month and a half of NC I missed her greatly and emailed her saying basically that maybe we rushed into things before we got to know each other more and that maybe we should be just friends and she emailed me back saying that she did want to be friends. Well since then I've hung out with her once at a hangout with friends which was awkward because it was my first time seeing her and we have been emailing and texting a lot back and forth with her initiating most of the contact.

 

My question is should I just ask her if there's any chance of us getting back together and if this "friendship" might actually lead somewhere? Because I seriously can't do the friends thing anymore right now anyway and there has been no mention of "us" in the conversations between us. I still have feelings for her and want to try and give it a second shot and take things slow because things did move fast between us before the summer and there was a lot of pressure on use from friends and co workers and I really wasn't acting myself because I was scared of losing her. She is an attractive girl and I know every guy wants to go out with her and I really don't wanna be there when she does get another bf or starts dating because I know it will hurt bad.

[trueblue72ny]

My suggestion, I know there are feelings involved, but i wouldnt ask her anything... I would let her come around to you in that regard. But at the same time you should probably be doing other things with your life as if there was not a her in your life. She might get curious... Its a very hard thing to do but if you suck it up and be strong you might just get what you want. I am trying to do the same thing now. I would like a little more with my ex but at the same time i dont think my life shoudl stop. I have been talking to a couple women and its weird at first, but I kind of feel a shift occuring in me already. There might come a time that I might not care what the ex thinks anymore!! I wouldnt like ot lose that, but at the same time what a relief i would feel to have this off my heart.