wisebutnotperfect Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 okay so here is the story.. and i hope to get some feed back to a really emotionally confusing situation for me. i feel like you will need some background so bear with me please.. my ex and i have been apart for 1 1/2 yrs now and things are not amicable. we have a 9 yr old son that i really wanted to have 1/2 time shared custody but backed down in the end to take 12 days per month. while we were together the last few years our love life was terrible and i had an intuition that she was taking other lovers. she sneered at me and put me down in all situations. i started cruising the milf sites never joining sites just cruising, bored, lonely and i really think subconciously "looking" for the closest thing i could find to her. i really missed her and the really great love/ sex life that we once shared. just recently while cruising one nite i actually found a picture of her on a site! i am absolutely convinced that it is her. i actually weighed in my mind whether i could use this to gain more custody time with my son but eventually decided that that course of action would only put me in to the same vindictive category as she is in. so... after a few glasses of wine one evening i sent her the pic by phone and told her where she could look at it online. being the person that she is she denies that it is her. she sent me an email the next a.m. tagged "libel suit" that i chose to not open. i sent her a note telling her that i would not share this with anyone but that she should use better judgement as a role model in the future. what if our son sees this at some point in his life? there is NO question that this is her but i am reluctant to show it to one of our friends and have it confirmed. if someone has read this thread this far. 1. i really appreciate it. 2. i really could use some feed back and maybe even some advice. thanks.
amaysngrace Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 You screwed up by bringing it to her attention. You should have just had someone you know answer the ad to set her up. You would've even had a witness. Now she's on to you.
Adunaphel Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 It could not be her. It could be that she trusted the wrong person with a pic of her and the pic ended up online. If it is her and she had no idea that her picture was online, she is probably shocked right now, and it is very normal that she denies it. I would open the email she sent you. Ignoring it on purpose after texting her about the picture is very immature. Showing the pic to one of your friends would not have any other purposes than damaging her. Please do not do that. You found a porn pose pic of her on the very adult site you were surfing. This sounds like a double standard. If you are so concerned that your son might see it, perhaps you should call her, apologize, and ask her very nicely to remove it explaining that you are worried about your son.
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