Lucky555 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I gave him my number and he didn't give me his on the first date. I figured he would call.....but instead he messages me via email. Why doesn't he call? It just seems odd to me.
zhsoj Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I personally find I prefer email. It's easier to say what I want... I don't really think well on my feet.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Suggests shyness or lack of assertiveness to me. I wouldn't be into it. It's OK if he's a little shy or nervous on the phone -- much better than chickening out and sending an e-mail.
Author Lucky555 Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 yeah, i was into this guy but something seemed odd about the number thing. We had a great time....but when i gave him my number he was hesitant sort of and then i insisted he take it. He contacts me via email and when i send him an email he does not respond till a day later even though he read it. i wonder if this is a game for him? He didn't seem like this type of guy but I don't know him that well. I would think if he really was into me that he would respond and want to chat with me . He seemed open on our date he even has been in touch too! So the whole phone ordeal is really weird.......even if he did have my number he could text me so its not like he even had to CALL! This is what had me wondering whats going on. Every guy i have dated has ASKED for my number!!! weird
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 The next time he responds via email, just say: "I'm really not fond of email. You've got my number. Call me. :)"
Author Lucky555 Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 well i won't be seeing him again since hes leaving. He had told me this whole week he was staying nearby. Hes from out of town and lives quite a distance. I believe if this was meant to be it would work out even with the distance. HOWEVER, I found out through his email he was not staying in town at all! I just found this out today. So basically, now its not only the number thing that is sketchy but also the fact he said he was in town for week and hes not now? I told him the truth about what i was doing, I had a couple days available but I see its not going to work out because hes apparently going out of town. Yeah and the fact that he reads my messages and doesn't reply...until a day later thats WEIRD. We both said were busy with other things and that was that. Everythings good but yeah thats how this whole thing went down. ON TO MORE DATING.
RecordProducer Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 yeah, i was into this guy but something seemed odd about the number thing. We had a great time....but when i gave him my number he was hesitant sort of and then i insisted he take it. Sorry, but I don't see what's so odd and weird about this. The guy was hesitant about taking your number, he never gave you his, and he never called you. It's kinda obvious that he's not really interested, even if he likes you. Maybe he has a girlfriend (or a boyfriend). Why did you INSIST he take your number? Do you think that insisting makes guys interested? If anything, it's the opposite. The interest has to be mutual.
Viking Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Suggests shyness or lack of assertiveness to me. I wouldn't be into it. It's OK if he's a little shy or nervous on the phone -- much better than chickening out and sending an e-mail. How is it that he got your email? If I called a girl and was nervous on the phone, would that be a turnoff? What about if when I called her two days later and left a very indecisive sounding voice message, would that be enough to for her to not want to go on a first date? Of the girls I've met, some have been a little forceful giving me their number and I just wasn't that interested. I should want your number if I like you and I should ask for it if I'm into you.
Author Lucky555 Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 well prior to giving my number, i told him we lived in two different areas and thats a problem. Maybe this was why? Which i was being honest but we definitely both liked each other because he was very action orientated (hold me and chatting with friends at their place) throughout my time spending with him after the number giving. Now we have been in contact with each other everyday after our date. BUT he lives far away! I can't go all the way out to where he lives and he works out there. He has mentioned that he won't be back here for awhile so its difficult. I personally would rather get to know him better. So maybe not seeing him is good so we don't go to fast. I don't mind seeing other people because its only fair for both of us. He also has emailed me back and forth today so thats good that he did that maybe he was uncomfortable before I don't really know. I believe as it all seems i'm going to have to see other people if the time comes. Maybe he doesn't call because look at the situation! I don't know its hard to tell.
Habibti Posted November 28, 2008 Posted November 28, 2008 I'm gonna with RP, why force a guy to take your number? If you have to shove it down his throat, why bother?
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