micahmo77 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I posted this same post earlier but should have asked for someones opinion in this regard. Should I make one last phone call or text attempt??? So I started dating this girl and things seemed to be going great, however we only went on two dates. After the first date there was alot of kissing and emailing, texting, cant wait to see you again type stuff etc. This lead me to believe that she was quite into me. We make plans to go on a second date, this time at a club and her two friends came along, one being with a boy friend or something. Get to the club and shes all excited to see me. Everything seemed to be awesome, kissing on the dance floor, dancing all night etc. The one thing I didnt do which for some reason slipped my mind was buy her friends drinks at the beginning of the night. Just bought them for her and I, mistake I know. Either way the night went well, we even made plans for her to come out to my house for a night or two this week and she was going to stay the night. After the club I dropped her and her friends off at thier car because she wanted to ride with me to hang out longer. I got home and called her, they were at Dennys and she said she had a great time and that her friends even liked me which was a positive thing. Ok! so it seemed cool...then Sunday rolls around call her since we went out Fri night. Left a message to call me at my work number, mind you it comes up blocked but still left a message to call at the work number which she didnt have..... never hear back. Then emailed her Sunday night, no response. Sent one more email last night which was Monday and no response. I dont get it...looks like the ole blow off. I prob wont call or email even though I want too just to find out what happened, I did ask in the email if its something I said or did I apologize but would love to hear from you. Never heard back!
2sure Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Yep. Unless there was a death in the family, it certainly sounds like she has blown you off. The possibilities are: 1. Her old bf came back 2. You did something wrong fri night 3. One of her friends did not like you You cannot do a thing about 1 or 3. In the event it really bugs you, it would not be totally inappropriate to send one more email regarding #2. Since it sounds like the only thing you could have possibly done wrong was appear somewhat cheap - ask her. Don't ask her in an accusatory way or even defend yourself much, ask in an amused self deprecating way if you can. She might get the implied lightness and reply. But yes, she has blown you off.
D-Jam Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I said it in the other topic. Leave her alone for now and keep your options open. No offense, you're sounding like one of those doormat nice guys. You're all worried you're going to lose the girl, when you should more think she's an option. You don't owe her any loyalty until she says she wants to be exclusive with you. Go out, meet girls, have fun, let her call or email you now. You've handed her plenty of openings for communication, now the ball is in her court. If you get through the weekend and not a word...then consider it that she flaked out and is off looking for other male options. Male or female...you don't hand loyalty or devotion to anyone until they agree to be exclusive. There is no "faithful" when it's just non-exclusive dating. If someone wants your loyalty like that, then they can give something in return.
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