davidjor Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Well, I married my high school sweetheart we were together for 12 years total, and we were married for 2 years, we had one daughter together. I was able to walk away from that relationship no problem. Next, I meet a girl we dated for 5 1/2 years and she was very jealous of my ex-wife, me and her lived together for 5 years and had a really good relationship, until she started being very jealous of my ex wife. I ended up leaving, it was hard but in a couple months i was fine. Next, I meet a girl we dated for 3 years and this was honestly the best relationship at the beginning of all the above. We lived together for 2 years and then she was not very good to my daughter and she did not want to make a relationship with my daughter. Even though she had a son, and i treated him very good and loved him like he was my own. She still was not close with my daughter. Mind you this girl and I NEVER NOT ONCE fought, we always talked nice and was able to compromise any differences we had. Right down to the day i kicked her out of my house for not being good to my daughter. Again, this relationship was pretty easy for me to get over. Now, I move to Panama City, Panama to start a business I Invested my life savings into this business. While i was living in Panama i meet (what I thought) was an amazing Panamanian women for the first year things were amazing. She was married to another american and had gotten a divorce shortly after we meed. He was living in the states and she was in Panama and had been for 6 months before i meet her. Then last christmas she went to take her son to the US to see his dad for christmas. Which I was ok with, but they ended up spending 10 days together and they took their son to disney world etc. etc. etc. Anyway, she ended up being like 2 hours from me this whole time with her ex. and did not make an effort to come see me. As a matter of fact, her ex never knew she had a boyfriend or was seeing someone. Anyway when she got back to Panama, i was shocked when she never bought me even a christmas card, nothing. I ended up giving her a nice pair of Diamond ear rings, they were beautiful. Anyway, i got nothing which really hurt my feelings since i was doing everything for this girl. We would go out, and spend thousands per week playing at the casino, and entertainment. She got everything she possible needed. Then around March, i needed to raise another million dollars to keep my business going. I was able to raise the money, but at that time i just wanted out of the business, for i had already lost all of my money and was BROKE ! So I sold my shares of the company to a new investor, and decided it was time for me to come back to the states and work and make more money. Anyway, this was around March of this past year.. From December to March (when i left Panama) our relationship was very rocky. Anyway, i found out that her ex-husband told her if she did not have a boyfriend that he would buy her a new car, give her money etc. Well, this all pissed me off and i was leaving panama anyway so we broke up. I tried to be nice to her, and after i got back to the States if she needed money i would send her money. Anyway, our breakup was in March and i have been to Panama a couple of times for another business venture. I seen her both times, we had sex and had a good time together. My first trip i planned there was for her birthday, i took her and all of her family out drinking and partying and made a nice birthday party for her. Spent a couple grand, making sure everyone had a nice time. (She did thank me) Well, when i got back from my last trip in August. I was there on my birthday, she did not give me anything. Well when i returned to the states, i was diagnosed with having Bladder Cancer. BOY, WAS THAT A SHOCK TO ME. i ended up going for treatment and i communicated with her through-out this but, the day of my surgery she did not call or anything, to wish me luck nothing. I was hurt. So, I told her so. Anyway there are allot of things she has done in the past to hurt me and i kept trying to make it work with her. Then yesterday i was IM;s with her and told her i was going back to Panama the first weeks of December and she said she was taking her son to see his Dad. I am like, I thought his dad was coming to Panama to see him. She was rude, and said no she was talking him to Columbia (that is where is dad is now, working) to see him. So this is how the IM Conversation went: Me: I think the way you have been treating me is very disrespectful, all i wanted to do was spend some time with you. Her: We are not dating anymore, so i do not have to respect you Me: well, you never respected me when we were dating her: We are never going to get back together me: i understand that, however i thought it would be nice to see you Her: your pathetic Me: Ok, Thanks have a nice day I think that after all i did for her, and her family and how she treated me through my cancer treatment etc. her saying i am pathetic was the one thing that really hurts me the worst. i have never ever, called her a bad name. Never disrespected her like this. But that pathetic word just makes me so mad that she could say such a thing. Anyway, this was yesterday. since then we both blocked each other on messenger and I have not heard from her. Now, even after how bad she treated me i am still having a hard time getting over her. I still constantly check her myspace, she when she logged on etc. I am obsessed with her, even though i know she does not treat me well and i deserve better. Shew, long story... Input please.
feelrealempty Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 u sound like a well off intelligant man who has chosen the wrong path one too many times. I feel for u it stinks to not be appreciated. I think u need to ttake care of ur daughter and spend all this time and energy and money on her and forget this woman. I know easier said than done but she sounds heartless. Your daughter is probably scared for u right now and needs u. Good luck with ur health because that should be number 1 and ur daughter number2.
Author davidjor Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 lol, i had a little money at one time.... but lost it all with a bad investment. Now, it is time to make more. It is easy to make money, it is just hard to keep it
BCCA Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Oh man, that sucks. I'm really sorry to hear that, but it sounds like you're doing alright. You're making some mistakes that I've made that I've been spending a lot of time trying to correct. First, do not reward bad behavior. She got you nothing for xmas? I would have taken those earings right back to the store you got them from. I know what you were thinking, you already had the earings in your hand and they were for her, what a douche you would be if you took them back. The problem is, what you did is give her the idea that even if she isnt going to be considerate or respectful of you, you'll still put her needs/wants above yours. I'm guessing you were probably a lot more willing to comprimise and make time for her than the other way around. I really dont think this woman is any good for you. Delete her number, block her IM, do not talk to her in any way again. That IM chat is terrible, you simply cannot let that slide. That's intolerable. You seem like a nice guy with a big heart, dont waste all that on someone who is undeserving. Take care of yourself first.
Author davidjor Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 the list of things this women has said and done to me is literally endless, i have posted allot on http://www.boards.askmen.com until i found here. Here i have just posted tid-bits here and there, i just dont have the energy to post all she has done. yet, i am still stuck on this girl... still having a hard time getting over her. Maybe, because i should have kicked her to the curb along time ago and she beat me to it...?
BCCA Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Maybe, because i should have kicked her to the curb along time ago and she beat me to it...? Us men are more reactionary and somewhat lazy, thats why you see more woman dump men then the other way around. Whats probably really getting to you about this one is that you were bending over backwards for someone who didnt do anything for you, and you dont understand why. As my grandfather used to tell me all the time, you have to test people - constantly. Not just because you want to make their life difficult, but people have a tendency to act a certain way to get a reaction from someone else, and once they have their desired outcome, they 'flip the script' if you know what I mean. Im in the same boat brother, same boat. My ex treated me like absolute crap for months, and yet I was right there for her up until the moment she dumped me. You just dont know what you were thinking. Its a hard pill to swallow, but trust me - youre so much better off never going back to this woman for any reason. Youve seen her true colors, and they arent pretty.
Author davidjor Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 yes, agreed now my big problem is i leave to go back to Panama this Wednesday for 3 weeks. I am hoping like hell i do not run into her, or do anything stupid for the three weeks i am there. but, i have 3 dates lined up... This trip is going to be rough!!!
IcemanJB Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 It's amazing you even went that long putting up with her ****. Take it as a lesson learned; don't EVER let a woman treat you like that. That is just unacceptable in my book. Respect must work both ways. It seems like you'll be fine moving on though. As others have said, she truly is not worth the tears/stuff you bought her/time thinking about her. Harsh, but true.
feelrealempty Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 Sorry its the first time in weeks I logged in did u go to panama? what has happened Ill search, but needed to ask incase u checked.
alwayssme Posted December 18, 2008 Posted December 18, 2008 What is her problem? "we are not dating anymore so i don't have to respect you?" WOW!! I mean first of all, you were together at one point the LEAST she can do is respect you...and second aren't you supposed to be respectful to people anyway? She didn't even call you when you had surgery for cancer? does this woman even have a heart? no seriously..she is a b*tch...f*** her...and dont give her anymore of your time.
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