savvy_girl Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 :confused:good Morning- The first time I saw ex after 8 months of not seeing each other, I could feel the love. We both cried. He stated we will have to see each other again, and he missed me very much. He was still dating OW. He stated he started dating ow to get over me, was using her, and it just evolved into a r-ship. He said his feelings for her were nothing like his feeelings for me. This was in August. We saw each other in Septemeber, and had talked all during August. He was happy & loving, but then became scared and started on his usual line of "Even though I still love you, I am afraid if we will go back, it would be the same. That r-ship hurt and I do not want to feel that way". Neither do I which I said we would have to go into counseling together as we both did not communicate well. For example he saw a bracelet he had given me on my dining room table, and thought I overtly placed it there to tell him I do not love him. WTF? I only wear things on my wrist when I go out. I cannot wear them to work, I am an OR nurse. Then comes his I want to take a break from everyone speech. So he allegdedly broke up w/her. And says that he may end up alone and that is fine with him. He told me he thought about me constantly while dating OW. I asked him how did he think I felt when he told me about their sexual encounters, and did he think of me then? He said not for the 3 minutes he had sex, but right after, and right before. Why will he not see me or give us a second chance? Help me understand this. If I had not seen him,I would not have thought he still loved me, but both times, I could see it & feel it.
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