broken_hearted01 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I contacted my ex a few days ago, and to my surprised he responed to my email. Not only was this reponse sweet and calm but he apologized for our rude and nasty breakup. Something in me made me contact him after I swore that I was through with him. We have been broken up for nine months and prior to that we have been together for three years. Everything we've been through tore through my body like the blade of a jagged knife. He has damaged not only our relationship but my abilities to love, trust, be loved, and be trusted. I, post our breakup, have adapted to thinking like a male when it came down to relationships. Needless to say I have became him in a sense. {Back to the email} Through causual conversation, the feelings I intially had for him came running back and I embraced them with open arms. Yet after I gather up all the courage and life in me I told him I missed him. He has yet to respond. Did I do the right thing? Should I accept the fact that it is over? Or should I go for a second chance?
Sysyphus28 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 You know the answer to that. You know what you went through in the last 9 months. You know how you were treated. What do you want?
eugene3 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I am confused with your story... Why after 9 months all of a sudden and when you say feeling returned sis you lose all feelings foe him and thought you did not love him anymore?
eugene3 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I am sorry for my spelling. Basically what i am confused about is why are you asking for a second chance when you broke it off for legit reasons? next what did you lose meaning did you lose all feelings for him and love?? You are saying that all of the sudden you felt love for him again??? and if thats true did you and him go NC for the whole 9 months??? Can you elaborate alittle more please?
Author broken_hearted01 Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 okay....these feelings have always been here but I tried to mask them. Surprisingly, I've done horrible. As far as NC goes, we went through it for the whole nine months.
Author broken_hearted01 Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 I actually confused about the answer...
Dmoney28 Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 If you guys kept in contact the entire 9 months, i think feelings on both sides never died. It seems like you, him or both of you guys didnt move on completly. At this point, all games aside. You need to ask him..."would you like to try our love again......slowly". If he says no... for your sake, you have to move on....if yes...then start rebuilding a friendship first...then possibly romance. YES or NO, there is no maybe, or "Im not sure"...its been 9 months.
Author broken_hearted01 Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 thats the thing...we didn't kep in contact through the nine months...He was out of the country but there wasn't a day that would go by without me thinking about him. I do want to try our love again.
Author broken_hearted01 Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 he cheated and chose the other women over me. Now he says that he regrets his decision. Not a day went by that I did not rewind back to that day and cry myself to sleep. I recently found out that he and the other women had broke it off b/c he would not have sex with her.
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